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Don’t be a Drag, be a Queen! – Transvestophilia- (Transvestite Fetish)

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I WANT TO BREAK FREE! I want to break free. I want to break free from your lies, you’re so self-satisfied I don’t need you. I’ve got to break free. God knows, God knows I want to break free…

This week’s Fetish Friday is about the fabulous world of transvestism (also known as transvestitism).

So what is transvestitism and what is a transvestite?

transv1A transvestite is a person who enjoys dressing as a member of the opposite sex. Most commonly a transvestite will be a man who enjoys dressing as a women. A man wearing women’s clothing is sometimes said to be “in drag” and referred to as a “Drag Queen”.

A transvestite is not to be confused with a person who is transsexual. A transsexual person feels that they have the mind of one sex and the body of the other and may take hormones and undergo gender reassignment surgery to become their preferred gender. A transvestite merely dresses as the opposite sex for fun or sexual excitement.

A common misconception is that a transvestite person is homosexual which in fact that is often not the case. There are many men who enjoy wearing their female partner’s clothing and have no interest in being with a man sexually. There are even notable famous Drag Queens and performers who are happily married such as Dame Edna Everage (Barry Humphries) who has actually been married to four different women!

Another memorable transvestite man is Chandler’s dad from the American TV sitcom Friends in which one episode there was a fantastic exchange between Chandler’s parents;

Charles Bing: “Aren’t you a little too old to be wearing a dress like that?”

Nora Tyler Bing: “Don’t you have a little too much penis to wear a dress like that?”

Although for many, dressing up as a member of the opposite sex is just a bit of fun, for others the experience is a turn on.

Transvestite fetishism is when a person finds it sexually arousing to dress as a member of the opposite sex. Transvestophilia is a fetish whereby a person sexually desires a transvestite partner.

In a relationship in which one (or both) partner(s) enjoys transvestitism, sexual play may involve one partner wearing the clothes of the opposite sex and maybe even dressing up with styled hair (or wig) and makeup. In bed they may act with unchanged gender roles or the transvestite partner may adopt traits more traditionally associated with the opposite sex.

Of course, not all transvestitism has to be quite as extravagant as Dame Edna… in fact, some men prefer to keep is much simpler and a lot more discreet…

transv3Panty wearing fetish is a type of transvestitism by which a heterosexual man enjoys wearing women’s underwear. The man may do so at home alone, in the mirror, in view of his partner or even wear panties outside of the house underneath his male clothing as a naughty little secret.

Some men even enjoy wearing a little more lingerie and feel sexy in bras, basques, stockings and suspenders. Actually, this fetish isn’t entirely uncommon and there are lingerie brands which exist to produce women’s lingerie in men’s sizes.

Some heterosexual couples may even enjoy wearing matching bras and panties as things get steamy in the bedroom.

That’s all for this week. Have a kinky weekend xx

Shower Sex: It’s Better When It’s Wetter

Why Have Sex In The Shower?

It’s something we have all done, or all imagined doing, but have you done it right? Here’s a play by play of the perfect sex scene in the shower and why you should do it wetter.

It’s hot. Let’s face it. From the warm water, to your soapy bodies and slippery hands, sliding all over each other, it just couldn’t get any hotter! So here’s how you do it right.

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How to have Festival Sex

Festival season is upon us and we all know that music, alcohol and general partying makes a lot of us feel like getting down and dirty. When it comes to festivals- especially in Britain- this tends to literally be the case as everyone and everything is utterly filthy. It’s not all bad though, because here at Bondara, we’ve got some simple tips for how to have festival sex.

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The excitement of a stranger

From a very young age we’re warned about the danger of ‘strangers’; “Don’t talk to strangers”, “don’t take candy from strangers”, “don’t get in the car if a stranger offers you a ride home from school”…

But sometimes, danger is exciting!

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Big Boobs!

Five Fun Fetishes for Lovers of Big Boobs

So little over a year ago I wrote a blog for those of you who love BIG TITS! Now we’re revisiting the topic of glorious globes once again so that I can share with you five fun fetishes for lovers of big boobs

Voyeurism

One of the reasons that we love gargantuan breasts so much is that they’re visually appealing. Men especially are thought to be more aroused by physical features then women are – they like curves; big hips, big ass and big bust. Boobs look great in sexy lingerie, bikinis, low cut tops… (seriously, we can’t help but look!) So if you go crazy at the sight of enormous bazookas, try logging onto a live webcam site where you can see plenty of hot girls showing off their fantastic breasts and if you’re lucky you may see a baby oil show!

 

Breast slapping

Let’s be honest girls, who doesn’t like it when things get a little rough in the bedroom? I mean, even if you’re more of a love maker than a hard fucker, rough sex is fun every once in a while 😉

Tit slapping can be a great addition to hair pulling, face slapping, erotic choking and rough sex.

 

tits1Nipple clamps/ weights

Of course the most sexual and sensual part of a woman’s chest is her nipples! The chest and in particular the nipples are an erogenous zone so paying plenty of attention to them during foreplay could really determine whether your partner is aroused and ready for sex, or not. (Some women simply can’t cum without nipple stimulation and others can actually achieve orgasm through nipple stimulation alone!) A great way to add some hot nipple ‘torture’ into your bedroom play is to use nipple clamps. There’s a fine line between pain and pleasure and nipple clamps are a perfect mixture of the two; the exciting feeling of pinched nipples with the pain that comes along with it (and the longer you leave them on, the more it hurts).

Top tip – if you’re yet to purchase nipple clamps but are eager to try this out tonight, use clothes pegs! They provide a lot of pressure (pain) and are thus ideal for Dom(me)/sub role-play.

 

Rope bondage

If you’re into bondage and BDSM then you probably like to play with rope every now and again. Rope bondage can be thrilling, sexy and in some cases like a beautiful work of art. A perfect example of the beauty of rope bondage being the rope dress which can be crafted in many styles to create a submissive and enticing look. But, have you ever seen breast bondage? Honestly I think it looks painful. The breasts turn red due to the trapped blood and almost look like the rope will sever them from the body… but even if you’re not a huge fan of the aesthetics of chest bondage, the physical sensation and mental aspect can be hugely arousing and a very sexual experience. For tips on how to correctly bind your partner’s breasts there are plenty of step-by-step guides on Google that can teach you everything you need to know for some titty bondage fun.

 

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And lastly, the tit wank! If you have a fantastically large bosom then any red-blooded male would be thrilled to slip his hard cock between those breasts and fuck them! For a time I thought this act was simply one which looked good on camera and thus was often featured in porno movies but wasn’t overly popular in real life… but that simply isn’t the case! Men really do like it. However, lubrication is ESSENTIAL. Unlike your pussy, your chest isn’t going to become naturally moist (well, maybe if you’ve just finished a 60 minute run your sweat will suffice) but otherwise a little bit of KY Jelly or baby oil can be the difference between uncomfortable friction and immensely pleasurable titty fucking.

 

That’s all for this week.

And girls, don’t be disheartened if you don’t have huge boobs! Any member of the “itty bitty titty committee” can enjoy the first 3 fetishes on this list and breasts really do look beautiful in all shapes and sizes! But if you want your breasts to look especially delicious, check out Bondara’s very kinky range of lingerie which will leave your partner SPEECHLESS.

 

See you next week xxx

8 MORE Naughty Ideas For Your Summer Vacation

Last summer I wrote a blog post entitled “8 Naughty Ideas For Your Summer Vacation” which included skinny dipping, being the perfect submissive, sex on the beach, joining the mile high club, having a threesome, erotic shaving, ice play and living out your roll play fantasy. This year we’re getting excited about summer again with another 8 kinky ideas for those sunny months – all fetish related, of course.

So without further ado, here are 8 fun and freaky ideas to hot up your summer;

Inflatophilia

Inflatophilia includes all fetishes to do with inflation such as inflatable rubber suits, inflatable objects, inflatable sex toys and balloons (loonerism). This summer an inflatophile could have plenty of fun in the sun with a beach ball or even get wild with a lilo in the pool!

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Fun Ideas for Rope Bondage Fans

Not something we needed a blog about…or so we thought. Rope has so many possibilities it’s actually harder than you think to come up with specific ways to play, so I’ve gathered some fun ideas for rope bondage fans.

All around the world millions of people have an interest in bondage and desire to be either tied up and unable to escape or to tie someone up and keep them prisoner; rope bondage plays a huge part in the BDSM scene.

However, this style of bondage isn’t always as simple as tying someone’s hands behind their back; for some rope bondage is a very skillful practice and can even be considered an art form.

If you’d like to get serious about rope bondage then it can be pretty complicated and there are various considerations before you tie up your submissive, these include; type of rope (hemp, jute, linen, cotton, silk, bamboo, manila, sisal, nylon, paracord, MFP, synthetic hemp, polyester or generic polypropylene), construction (twisted/laid or braided), ends (whipped, knotted, fused, glued or taped), diameter (thin, average or thin) and length (short, medium or long).

… but if you’re a beginner then all you really need to worry about is whether you’d like your rope to be classic black, sultry red or hot pink!

So now that you’ve purchased some rope and you’re equipped to have some fun, here are a few ideas for exciting rope bondage play…

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Best Pick-Up Lines

Pickup lines are something that we have all experienced before. Whether it be a creepy one or a line that splits your sides and you then adopt as your own. What are the best pick-up lines? Sometimes, a hilariously cringe-worthy pickup line is the perfect way to bag yourself a first date or break the ice. So as an ode to the hundreds of pickup lines, we have composed a list of our faves.

Remember, girls, you can use these too… don’t be shy – sit back, grab a pen and paper and take notes.

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You might be asked to leave soon. You are making the other women look bad.

Fool proof. You’re sure to get a laugh from this one and probably a decent response. Complimenting a girl usually works well to initiate conversation and this one’s not too high on the creepy scale. Give it a go!

My friends bet me I couldn’t talk to the prettiest girl in here. Want to use their money to buy drinks?

Make sure you have some friends to point to otherwise this might backfire. You’re complimenting her and offering her a drink all at once; who could say no to this.

Your smile lit up the room, so I just had to come over.

This may just work, worth a shot. Let us know!

 

The Bad:

Girl, if you were words on a page, you’d be fine print.

Nothing gets a girl in the mood more than suggesting her degree of hotness is comparable to the fine print of a document… Right? Right?!

Where do you hide your wings?

Yes, you are referring to her as an angel and yes this is a brilliant way to lighten the mood. You’ll be remembered, that’s for sure.

Your eyes are blue like the ocean. And baby, I’m lost at sea.

Bravo! If you’ve managed to let this one slip off your tongue, you deserve a date just for the bravery.

 

Just pure filth:

Now we know these may not go over too well, but if you’re set on throwing some sexual innuendoes into the mix then we say go big or go home!

My name is [your name]. Just so you know what to scream later.

You know why I’m like a squirrel? Because I want to bury my nuts in you.

You know how your hair would look really good? [No.] In my lap.

We do not take any responsibility for what may come of the above pickup lines, we do however salute you if you are brave enough to attempt them!

So there you have it. We’ve given you enough to start off, but we know there are so many more amazing lines out there. What are your favourites? Leave us a comment and let us know – maybe someone will benefit from your wisdom!

Does your fetish make you cum?

The very definition of a fetish is that sexual gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular item or body part. So, does your fetish make you cum? And is it important? Although gratification (i.e., sexual climax) may be linked to the fetish, climax isn’t always achieved, nor is it necessarily always desired.

For some, having an orgasm isn’t a necessary part of meeting one’s fetish needs, rather, acting out a fantasy or tending to some other physical need (such as inflicting pain) is enough to satisfy the desire.

Let’s take a look at three types of fetishist:

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How To Make A Woman Come

You might think you don’t need any advice on how to make a woman come, but according to the Cosmo Orgasm Survey only 57% of women have an orgasm during sex. When you compare this to the fact that 95% of men climax every time; there’s definitely some room for improvement!

The female orgasm and the journey to get there can seem complicated but there are a few key tips that can transform the way you pleasure a woman…

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