Give into your desires and let your partner take control with this bondage sex position. You’ll barely be able to restrain yourself from living our your smutty fantasies.
How Do I Do?
Okay, the position is basically missionary but the Receiver is restrained to the bed by handcuffs. So, we’re not going to focus on the position but the bondage restraints. We’re going to assume you’ve discussed bondage basics, like aftercare and safewords, with your partner. If not, stop, and go check out our Kink Aware series. Now, where were we?
Before putting on the restraints, make sure the Receiver is comfortable. They should be able to keep their arms above their head without feeling stretched or strained, this is important because things may shift during play. It might be worth doing a little practice session without restraints to gauge their comfort level and stamina. Don’t improvise restraints. Belts and scarves can cut off circulation or cause nerve damage that could result in lifelong issues. Only use purpose made restraints, and always make sure you can release your partner quickly.
Why Should I Try This Sex Position?
In general, being tied down can amplify sensations because the position leaves people in a vulnerable position. Quite literally! It’s similar to how using a blindfold can make things all the more exciting. Plus, it’s perfect for playing out any damsel and villain roleplay (we’ve seen the ‘spicy’ books on TikTok…), as well as teasing your partner with sexy sensation play or tickle torture.
Restraints can be fun even if you’re not into traditional BDSM. Don’t think of cuffs or ties as leaving the restrained one at the mercy of their partner. Imagine instead, a Receiver who is bad at giving up control or being in the moment without worrying about responding and reciprocating. Restraints take away that pressure and gives them permission to relinquish control and enjoy.
Make It More Orgasmic!
Do you want to be naughty or nice? On the softer end of the spectrum, you could use any one of your ‘vanilla’ sex toys. With their body open to your erotic explorations, a massage wand is transformed from humble vibrator to edging extraordinaire.
On the flip side this is the perfect pose to crack out a flogger or paddle. Not everyone is into pain play, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be kinky. A feather tickler is a gentle (quite literally) way of trying sensory play as a beginner, so can tingle and warming lubes.
Of course, if you’re really leaning into BDSM you could assert your dominance with a strap-on (with your partner’s consent of course). Plus, if humiliation and degradation is on the cards for a male-receiver, you could dress him up in lacey lingerie like a sissy.
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We are committed to inclusivity and diversity. So, we are depicting a range of genders and sexual orientations in our Sex Position blog posts, including straight, gay, lesbian and gender-neutral couples. All instructions will detail how to make our sex positions work for any relationship.
