Have you heard of edging in sex and masturbation? Don’t worry; we won’t tease! We’ve got the tips and tricks that’ll boost bedroom time and have you on the edge of your seat.
Unlock a whole new level of pleasure in your saucy sessions with your partner or introduce this orgasm-controlling power play to your wank bank.
This beginner-friendly BDSM is the ideal introduction to something a little kinky for those looking to explore more sensual pleasure.
So, What is Edging?
When you have sex or masturbate, it’s highly likely you’ll do it with orgasms in mind – honestly, we don’t blame you 😉 However, some people use a technique called edging to extend their finger-fiddling or last longer with a partner.
Edging is a type of orgasm control; it’s when you bring yourself (or someone else) to the very edge of orgasm and then STOP. Some kinksters use it within Power Play dynamics and as part of BDSM as a form of funishment.
Now, it’s often referred to with men in mind but edging can be practised by anyone and everyone! Former, professional Dominatrix, Miranda Kane talked to Metro about how she used edging and orgasm control with her clients.
Many a professional dominatrix will tell you she will not allow submissives to orgasm during the session. I did.
Mainly because if they did cum halfway through, it meant I could clock off early and get on with a nice boxset.
Miranda Kane
Level Up Your Lovin’
Edging can do wonders for your sex life; whether you seek satisfaction solo or tease your playmate with an explosive ending.
Here are some of the mind-blowing benefits:
- It prolongs those ‘oh so good’ pleasurable feelings
- Sex lasts longer – whether orgasm is the ultimate goal or not!
- Simultaneous climax is more easily achieved if you’re both already hot under the collar
- Learn your body’s reactions to stimulation and when you’re close to cumming
- It’s an excellent way to introduce Dom/sub dynamics – you’ll be begging for release!
- Once you finally let yourself fly over the edge…those endings can be INTENSE
Edging Effects: True or False?
As with anything kinky, there are myths to bust. Edging is not going to make you infertile or make your bits numb, trust us. ‘Blue Balls’ and delayed ejaculation come up in these conversations, but these conditions are typically caused by stress and anxiety, not by choosing to stop ejaculation.
Some people do experience ‘dry orgasms’, which are described as the feeling and tension of cumming without the actual….well, cum. Other people have ‘half/disappearing orgasms’, which are explained as feeling like you’re about to climax but never actually getting there; you might have experienced this if someone has interrupted you during some alone time.
Now, excessive stimulation of the same type can cause some temporary numbness, but all you need to do to solve this is change up how you tickle your pickle; this is often part of some Dom/me’s technique with edging. More on that later 😉
The other thing to consider is the psychological aspect of this kink. You should NEVER edge someone or deny them an orgasm without consent. Make sure you talk to your partner about your interest in edging and climax control before you give it a go; You might find they’re really into it!
Standing on the Edge
We’re at the part of the blog you’ve all been waiting for – we know you horny lot just want to learn how to get down and dirty with this pleasurable practice!
There are so many ways to incorporate edging into your sex life. You’re really only limited by your imagination or your partner’s and your own sexual interests. If it makes you cum, then you can use it to edge yourself.
It might be obvious, but your go-to masturbation sex toy is the best place to start. Whether you like bullets, rabbits, dildos or love eggs, there is a range of stimulating possibilities. For the boys, there are cock sleeves, masturbators and prostate massagers. Oh, and don’t forget butt plugs! The options are quite literally endless.
Masturbate as you would normally, and as you feel yourself getting close to climax, pull back and take a beat to revel in those lovely feelings. Once you’ve come down, it’s time to start the whole cycle again – just go as many times as you like!
Forget your FitBit, the Edge Master Masturbator keeps track of your thrusts, not your steps! Cycle through six powerful vibration patterns and improve your stamina against the automatic mode. Work up a sweat with the warming feature for extra-realistic sensations, and beat your meat for a high score!
Something a Little…Kinkier
For those looking for a little inspiration, don’t fret; we’ve got you covered, just keep reading!
Bondage and restraints might pique your interest. Have your partner restrain you so you can’t escape their teasing touch and let them take a vibrator to your sensitive spots – make sure you let them know when you’re close so they can turn down or turn off the vibe before starting the process over again.
Perhaps you prefer something more sensational? Pop on a blindfold and have your Dom/me play with your senses with pinwheels, wax play candles and nipple clamps. Or, maybe something softer, like a feather tickler? The blindfold will mean you don’t know what’s coming next – probably not you anytime soon!
Sometimes, there’s nothing sexier than being told ‘no’ and the ultimate in edging is Chastity Devices. Lock your partner away and tease them with what they can’t have! Once you think they’ve suffered enough, free your playmate’s pleasure zones and see how long they last against a vibrator or a masturbator – Do they deserve the reward of an orgasm?
So, we hope we’ve inspired you to give edging a go and broaden your horny horizons! Or, maybe you already use this kinky practice? Let us know in the comments below!
Peter
July 1, 2022 at 5:19 pmI love a bit edging and how it extends the playtime and brings an amazing ending. Still early days at it for me so I do go too far sometimes and cannot step back from the edge but hey the fun is in the learning right
There’s a good website that can help with it too. It’s called edgemeplease and definitely worth a look