Do you want to level up your love life? Do you know where the 7 erogenous zones are? Discover what you can do with sex toys and a tempting touch to drive your partner wild.
So, keep reading to learn how to stimulate your partner’s (or your own!) extrasensory areas for mindblowing results…
What Does Erogenous Mean?
Okay, so let’s get into the sensory explosion that is the erogenous zones. Once you’ve got to the bottom of this article, you’ll be an erogenous expert, and you’ll be able to take this new-found knowledge into the bedroom. Firstly, we’ll go over the definition:
An erogenous area is a part of the body sensitive to sexual stimulation.
These areas, or zones, of the body often get broken down into seven separate parts to keep it simple but it could be said that there are a lot more. They vary incredibly from person to person, and even if partners have very similar receptive areas, they might prefer different kinds of stimulation.
Experiment to discover which of the zones your partner finds the most sensitive and exactly how they like to be touched. You can have fun on your own as well; don’t limit your exploration to your O.H.! Understanding your own pleasure zones is just as important for experiencing stimulating, full-body sex as a couple.
You may well know the iconic scene from Friends with Monica and her diagram that leaves Chandler stunned. It’s right in a lot of ways and, for many, was a crash course in the 7 erogenous zones. So, let’s get into where exactly those exciting, extra-sensory zones are…
So… Where Are the 7 Erogenous Zones?
Everyone experiences pleasure differently, so everyone will want different kinds of stimulation to reach arousal. From head to toe (literally), the erogenous zones we are covering are:
| Erogenous Zone | Perfect for… |
| 1. Lips | … Passionate kissing |
| 2. Ears | … Naughty nibbles |
| 3. Neck | … Lusty licks |
| 4. Nipples | … Pleasurable pinches |
| 5. Lower Stomach & Back | … Intimate massage |
| 6. Inner Thigh | … Sexy spanks |
| 7. Feet & Toes | … Erotic touches |
While it could be argued there are many, many more erogenous areas than seven, we’re going to focus on this simple diagram to get you started. As you discover what makes your partner tick, you’ll likely find that they want very specific parts of their body to be touched in very specific ways. Try to hit all your lover’s E-zones before going near their intimates for a tease like no other!
Other things that are considered erogenous zones that haven’t made it into our top 7 list; include the inside of the wrist or palms, other areas of the face like the cheeks or brow bone and the scalp! Have you ever brushed hands with a date while walking next to each other, or gotten randy from a cheeky shoulder rub from your partner? This is all erogenous stimulation!
Ultimately if you want to make your partner a writhing mess of anticipation… touch everywhere but their genitals. A gentle caress, the calming pressure of a massage or a change in sensory experience using accessories like blindfolds can do wonders during foreplay but can also be fantastic for shaking up your solo sessions.
Stimulating These Sensitive Areas
Let’s go through all the ways you can excite these sensual areas of your partner! Most of these BDSM tools can be used across all 7 erogenous zones, so go wild and have fun exploring with your partner. We’re going to go through each item, how best to use it during foreplay or sex and how these tools will help you discover better, more intimate moments together.
Massage Oils & Lubes
It’s not a new idea that massages are perfect for relaxing your partner and getting them in the mood for sex. But did you realise it’s because you’re getting hands-on with their E-zones? Whether you’re going all in with full-body shiatsu or you’re focusing your efforts on their scalp or feet, you’re bound to hit the spot. By applying this pleasurable pressure to their muscles, you’re helping with blood flow throughout the body and, mentally and physically, encouraging your playmate to relax. You can use this method all on its own or as a precursor to other bedroom activities, so splash around the massage oil and have fun! 😉
Picking a different kind of lube before you play adds a new sensation to your sex sessions. While we’re focusing on areas outside of the intimates, it should be noted that one of the most powerful erogenous zones is the clitoris. Packed full of nerves, this small area is highly sensitive, so using something like a warming or cooling lubricant can massively change the experience of sex. These sex aids use ingredients like menthol and capsicum to achieve this toe-curling effect.
Nipple Clamps
Unlike the rest of the products in this article, nipple clamps have a more specific use. Nipple play is a great way to stimulate your erogenous areas and introduce a little beginner’s BDSM to the bedroom. Try pinching and massaging your partner’s breasts during a hot makeout session using your hands (or your mouth). If you’re after more consistent pressure, nipple clamps allow you to feel that pleasurable pinch while your partner’s hands are free to roam.
Some nipple clips come with sparkling jewellery, weights, and even vibrating attachments, letting you find the ideal form of stimulation for your sensitivity. Plus, this isn’t just one for the ladies! Men can have incredibly sensitive nipples too, so don’t be afraid to explore what makes you feel good.
Impact Play Tools
Using impact toys is a sweet and spicy way to touch upon your partner’s erogenous zones. For example, draping the tails of a flogger over their skin before delivering stinging spanks is perfect for exploring pain and pleasure.
Using a tool like a feather tickler is ideal for easing into erogenous impact play. Trail the soft tickler up and down their body to make them shiver with anticipation before using other sex toys in your bedroom games. Often the alternating of spanks and smacks with the soft textures of your chosen tool is what heightens your submissive’s responses. Read our article “What is Impact Play?“ if you want to learn more about the kinky practice.
Sensation Play
Wartenburg wheels were originally a medical tool designed to test the senses and the nerves, much like when a doctor taps your knee to check your reflexes. So, this is why they’re a perfect tool for exciting your partner’s erogenous zones. The tiny prickles of these pinwheels cover a small surface area, making the sensations very focused. Plus, the intensity of the pins is easily adjusted from a light tickle to a sharp sting.
Wartenburg wheels aren’t the only way you can explore this kind of stimulation! Bondara’s Vampire Gloves feature lots of tiny teeth in the fingertips for pleasurably painful, advanced impact play. However, try donning these devilish BDSM gloves and brushing your hands down your lover’s body for spine-tingling sensation play.
Wax Play
Another form of sensation play, wax play is really fun if you want to get creative and decorate your partner with drips while also raising their libido. Discover more about this daring BDSM practice with our article “Wax Lyrical”.
Wax play allows you to delve into erogenous arousal in layers… literally! Start by warming up your playmate’s skin with a massage (we’ve gone over why this is also lots of fun already), then light your candle and let drips fall across your partner’s skin.
DO NOT put wax on the genitals or the face! Stick to fleshy, flat areas of the body, like the stomach, back and chest.
Paint their skin with splashes of warm wax; Vary where you let the candle drip to keep them guessing or keep the focus in one area for highly erotic art. This kinky practice helps bring blood to the skin’s surface, which, in turn, increases the sensitivity of these areas. Once the wax has cooled, try scrapping it off your partner’s sensitive skin with a cooled implement like a palette knife for another extra-sensory experience.
Now you know exactly where to direct your tempting touches for deeply sensual sex, whether you’re looking to spice up date night or make your ‘me time’ more intimate.
So, go and explore your erogenous zones with your new kinky knowledge!
