Why should I introduce pegging to my sex life? How do I ask my partner if they want to don a strap-on? Does it make me gay to want to explore anal? (Hint: NO!)
Whether you’re a booty newbie or a seasoned prostate player, we’re here with the backside basics – strap in for knee-knocking pleasure!
So, don’t fret! We’re going to get you up to speed with the popular practice of pegging…
What is Pegging?
The term ‘pegging‘ was coined by sex advice columnist Dan Savage back in 2001. Defined as when “a woman dons a strap-on to penetrate her male partner anally”, pegging can unlock a whole new world of bootiful bliss for men.
It might seem daunting to ask your partner to knock on your backdoor but trust us, you’re missing out – as long as everyone involved is on the same wavelength then who’s to judge how you get your rocks off.
Historically, men have been resistant to anal play, but we say that stops now! Popping up in films like Deadpool, it’s safe to say the practice of pegging is on the rise. Unfortunately, men can be less than daring about their derriere with reasons like sexual shame and lack of communication holding them back from experiencing intense prostate pleasure.
Why should you give pegging a go?
There are a few reasons to explore pegging but the most obvious one is the explosive endings you get from probing your prostate.
You might have heard of it before butt if you haven’t, you definitely need to get to know your prostate. The P-spot, often dubbed the male G-spot, is a walnut-sized gland about 2 inches inside the anus. Stimulating this pint-sized pleasure spot can cause the most intense, full-body orgasms! You’ll want to milk it (no, that’s actually what it’s called!) for all it’s worth. Learn more about prostate milking in our blog on Anal Pleasure.
Another reason people like to indulge in anal experimentation is role reversal! Lots of men have cited reasons such as: receiving over giving has taken the pressure off during sex, pegging has allowed them to explore their submissive side or it has made their relationship with their partner stronger than ever and given sexy time a whole new lease of life. If you’re already into Power Play and are more dominant than submissive, don’t write off butt stuff! You can 100% Dom from below. It’s all about energy 😉
But, don’t just take our word for it! Six men spoke to Men’s Health about their pegging experiences and why they love it!
Face down, arse up – Will you even like pegging?
Honestly, you might not like it – that’s okay, it’s not for everyone! If you’re in a relationship, don’t be surprised or offended if your partner is hesitant at first. This power-play role reversal can be a lot to wrap your head around, especially if you’ve not ventured outside of ‘vanilla sex’. So, take it slow and make sure to talk it through! You know your relationship better than anyone.
But, if the idea of your partner taking you from behind, excites you then keep reading for our tips on how to get started!
Kit out your arse-nal!
If you’re looking to get down and dirty with your pegging playmate, the major pieces of equipment you’ll need are a strap-on and a harness. Our strap-on sets are probably the best place to start for first-time players; They come with a harness and a compatible strap-on. You wouldn’t want to find your harness is way too big for your chosen schlong and have it fall out halfway through sexy time!
If you’re totally new to anal play we suggest you start small, and we mean SMALL. So, to find out if popping something up your bum tickles your pickle, a great way to start is with a well-lubed finger (or two) or a beginner’s butt plug. Your butt hole is NOT self-lubricating so anal lubes are another essential to your ‘arse‘-nal. Anal lubes are specially designed to be extra slick, extra-thick and longer-lasting so you can focus on your anus.
You can get the low-down on the backside basics and where to start with our blog post Pegging Passion.
Your Bum, Your Rules
The basic rules for trying something new are communication, anticipation and preparation! It’s essential to have a conversation with your partner to ensure you’re both on the same page; Don’t just spring it on them! Talk on even footing (Read: outside of the bedroom) and go through what you’d like to explore and why. This is a great time to air out any apprehensions either of you has!
Preparing for anal play is vitally important. It’ll help you get physically and mentally ready to go to pound town. As always, anything to do with your bum can mean there’s a bit of the brown stuff. So, take a shower or a bath, get yourself fully cleaned up and if you want to go that extra mile to booty hole cleanliness, grab yourself an anal douche to clear your rear!
How does pegging feel?
We’ll be honest…the first time you put something up your bum, it makes you feel like you need a poo! So, it’s essential you try out different anal toys and find the right lube before you get rear-ended. It’s not a dick measuring contest (quite literally), so going too large, too early can totally put you off. Anal stretching is a kink in itself but newbies are encouraged to go slow and find out what they like before grabbing one of The Monsters.
It might be slightly uncomfortable to start with, but this is mostly because you’re experiencing a new sensation – like most muscles, you need to train it. Don’t resist or clench up, as this will make it harder for you to adjust to. Get yourself comfortable and make sure to communicate with your partner! As the receiver, you dictate the pace but remember – there’s no physical sensation in a strap-on so your playmate will need your guidance.
There’s also a chance you’ll be in your own head. Pegging is still seen as subverting the norm, despite its growing popularity, so you’ll be fighting your own preconceptions about sex.
Are you gay if you want to try pegging? (Hint: NO!)
Let’s get this out there now…You’re not gay cause you want to explore anal play. There are plenty of things that used to be seen as ‘gay’ that really aren’t, like skincare routines or even just dressing nicely!
If you’re not a man that is attracted to men then you’re not gay, end of. The mind-blowing stimulation and intimacy that pegging can bring to a relationship should outweigh what other people think of it. Plus, with the slew of male sex toys out there, male pleasure is very much on the agenda right now!
So, should you give pegging a go?
Now we’ve blessed you with this amazing anal knowledge, it’s up to you to decide whether you want to explore the bootiful benefits. Experience erotic role reversal, feel closer than ever with your partner and unlock explosive prostate pleasure – take the tip and level up your love life! 😉
Pegging Convert
June 18, 2022 at 1:25 pmIf, like me, you or your partner was hesitant about pegging, not just because you’re worried about hurting the receiver, but also because you wonder what’s in it for you? Then try a strapless strap-on. Those babies are a game-changer. While they can be tricky to learn how to use, but they offer stimulation for both partners. Result! Happy pegging!