The act of stretching involves gradually widening a person’s anus or vagina with fingers, sex toys or other suitable objects. Stretching is often a precursor to fisting, as you need to gradually widen the orifice until it can fit an entire fist. Extreme stretching may even exceed fisting and progress to using extra large sex toys or even double fisting!
So, What is Stretching?
A person with a fetish for stretching will usually have a preference for stretching one hole over the other. I spoke to a guy who had a particular interest in anal stretching;
“Fisting, or stretching, is dirty; it’s taboo, so stretching a woman’s ass is even dirtier or more taboo. Anal fisting is also a lot more extreme; most women have no problem taking 4 fingers in their pussy, whereas 4 fingers in the ass would feel a lot more intense.”
He then went on to describe how stretching has Dom(me)/ sub-elements; fisting can very much be a part of a BDSM relationship. “It has to be more than just domination and submission though, for a couple to do stretching successfully there has to be some degree of sadomasochism. The giver has to be a little bit of a sadist and the receiver has to be somewhat of a masochist.”
Stretching sometimes has elements of medical fetishism; one partner may enjoy inserting a speculum into the pussy or anus of their sub. This medical examination may then involve gradually widening the speculum to stretch out the sub’s vagina or anus.
How far can you go?
Well, you can stretch out a person’s ass a lot more than you can stretch out their vagina. Sure a woman can squeeze a baby’s head out of there, but the process of giving birth involves her hips dislocating and usually her vagina and perineum splitting – not something you’d want to happen in the bedroom! Several gynaecologists spoke to the Daily Mail about the stretching powers of the vagina. The anus on the other hand, with enough time and proper technique can get pretty wide.
A cautionary note though, there is a bigger risk of something going wrong when practising anal stretching rather than vaginal. If attempted in a reckless manner, or if you’re simply unlucky, the person being stretched may experience an anal prolapsed – not nice!
Stretching Starters
Firstly, if you’re looking to stretch out your partner’s asshole, it’s advisable that he or she douches first to avoid any messy situations.
Now, with enough lubrication, insert one finger, then two. Next, if he or she feels comfortable and their pussy or anus is relaxed enough, insert the third finger etc. The next stage is called “the goose” which involves you tucking your thumb into your palm (thus making your hand and arms look kind of like a goose’s head and neck). In order to reach the next stage, fisting, you must be able to get your hand in past the knuckles. If their vagina or anus is stretched enough and you’re able to slide your hand in, you can now slowly begin to curl your fingers down into a fist formation.
Tight Techniques
Congratulations, you just fisted your bae. To make this stretching session more extreme you can add the fingers from your other hand and gradually work up to double fisting. Another variation of double fisting would be to have one fist in each of her holes. First stretch out one hole, then the other. This will create an exquisite feeling of fullness. Lesbian couples or women fisting themselves will find this easier to do as women generally have smaller hands.
Another popular stretching method is using an anal training kit or sex toys which gradually increase in size and circumference. With this method, you simply insert the smallest toy and once that toy feels comfortable, you remove the toy and insert a slightly bigger one. Repeat this process until your partner is able to take the biggest toy in your collection! At Bondara, we sell a collection of huge sex toys called The Monsters. These big bad boys range from fists, chunky, incredibly long dildos and fantastical monster cocks!
So, does stretching tickle your fancy? Let us know in the comments below!
