My Boyfriend Wears My Panties

I suppose this is a fetish I’ve been putting off for a while as it’s one I ‘nearly’ encountered personally (and if you’re reading this, I hope you don’t mind me sharing).


I was travelling alone through South-East Asia in 2014 when I met a man whom I took an instant liking to. Over lunch one afternoon he asked me about my work as a writer and I decided to tell him about this blog; a different sexual fetish each week. He was very interested, as everyone tends to be, and began asking me questions about various fetishes.

Unbeknown to me, within this list of fetishes he slyly included one of his own and would later tell me that he was very disappointed with my response;

“What about men wearing women’s underwear, would you like that?”

“No that’s not something I’m into. I like my men to be men.”


It was more than a week later, after lots of very good ‘normal’ sex that he finally told me about his fetish and reminded me of our conversation over lunch that day. I didn’t really know what to say. I was that open-minded girl, the sex writer, the girl who considered almost nothing to be taboo or dirty… but any kind of male feminisation has always been a big turn-off for me.

It wasn’t too big of a problem however as the following morning  was leaving for pastures new. In hindsight perhaps I should have left a pair of lacy knickers behind…

So what exactly is this Fetish?

A man’s desire to wear a woman’s knickers is known as underwear fetishism or lingerie fetishism. This fetish covers anything from a man wearing pink cotton panties to the office under his suit and tie, to a man wearing a bra, panties, stockings and suspenders when having sex with his girlfriend.


How does lingerie fetishism differ from cross dressing?

A man who is only interested in wearing women’s panties or lingerie will generally identify as male. He may wear panties and even a bra under his “men’s clothing” every day but has no desire to look like or be viewed as a woman.

A cross dresser is a person who dresses in a way which makes them look like the opposite gender. More often than not “cross dressing” refers to a man dressing as a woman, but can describe a woman dressing as a man. A cross dresser wishes to be viewed as the opposite gender for reasons which may or may not be sexual. As well as wearing women’s underwear, a cross dressing man will wear women’s clothing, shoes, make-up and often a wig.

In fact, if your boyfriend confesses to you that he’d like to wear your g-string and you call him a cross dresser, he will most likely be offended. Generally underwear fetishism, or lingerie fetishism, refers to a heterosexual male, thus many underwear fetishist feel the need to reinforce “I’m not gay, I like women.”


So if lingerie fetishism has nothing to do with looking like a woman or identifying with one’s feminine side, why do guys like to wear bras and panties? A lot of the appeal has to do with the look and feel of the briefs; the soft cotton, smooth silk and sexy lace. Women’s underwear differs greatly from men’s boxers which are usually very simple and lack any kind of seductive appeal.

Browsing panty-wearing forums I read several stories of guys trying on women’s underwear for the first time and their cocks getting instantly hard. I suppose it makes sense really; women’s lingerie is sexy! Lingerie is associated with sex and beautiful women so is bound to be arousing.

None the less, many guys worry about telling their wives or girlfriend’s of their fetish for fear of being met with a reaction like mine – or worse! There are women out there who enjoy seeing guys in their panties, so you may just have to keep looking fellas.

And ladies, it may be a good idea to be a little more open minded as this fetish is pretty common. Your man can still be “masculine” in every conceivable way; how much can a lacy pink thong really deduct from a handsome beard and glorious pecs?

I like to think that in future I’d be a little more accommodating – you should be too!

See you next week x

  1. Sammy Lite
    Sammy Lite
    December 9, 2015 at 9:51 am

    I enjoyed reading the piece you wrote. As a cross dresser myself I must commend you for writing a balanced non judgmental post. There is a couple of things I would like to say on what you wrote.

    Firstly when it comes to sexual fetishes we are all wired differently. Even though you are a sex writer does not mean that you will be turned on by every sexual fetish. You have a right to state that any kind of male feminisation is a turn of for you. For example if you was a music writer it is acceptable for you to say that you don’t like country and western music.

    For the record I am a straight male. I personally only like to wear certain female clothing items, such as panties, stockings and high heels. I do this in private and when I go to fetish club nights. I don’t want to wear women’s bras and be in makeup. Previously when I had sex with women i would like to take their panties. I think the reason was to have a trophy of my sexual conquest. A few years ago I started to wear women’s panties.

    It is very complex as to the reasons why certain men want to wear women’s panties. Why do some people like the colour blue while others like black. Why do some people like baseball and others like basketball.

    One could argue that there is double standards in society. It is socially acceptable for a woman to wear guys boxer shorts or men shirt. No one will bat an eyelid. However a guy says he wears women’s panties and is ridiculed.

    It is good to read that you are “little more accommodating”. However in my opinion it is wrong for you say that everyone else should be too. As I said before we are all individuals and get turned on by different sexual fetishes. We all have a right to say that we are not into certain fetishes.

    In my opinion you should be honest right from the get-go when you enter a relationship with someone if you have a pantie fetish. If the person is cool with it then continue the relationship. It is not right for a guy to wait for a few year before he informs his partner that he has a pantie fetish. I have read many stories about this happening. To be brutally honest I have no sympathy with these guys because they lied to their partner.

  2. WalterLoony
    October 17, 2019 at 4:13 am

    just how do you date a black boy

    just how do you get a boy to date you?

    better, You need to become more quiet. Lets say you are a real loud person, He might think your crazy. So act grown and older. Act like guess what happens you are doing. Now brush flowing hair, Brush your the teeth, wholly shoes, Pretty shirts or dresses, Talk softly give him the eye contact and in a few days (week)He are going to ask you out. ( Full resolution )

    “you bet, It is adequately fine. don’t worry about your race. If someone makes fun of you and your date: DO NOT ignore THEM, This will make your date think you do not care. Be firm and withstand the person. don’t wait, Be insulting. this guidance ISNT THE 1900s! it’s DEFINEATLY okay, If a black teenage girl dates a white teenage boy that loves her for her a unique character, And things there is in common it is okay. nevertheless, people must be wary. He may be dating her only as a sexl dream;Forbidden fruit or possibly to humiliate her, and or her race. by way of example, There is this black girl I’ve become aquainted with who asked an understandable question: Is my white boyfriend racist? i was having sx, And he smacked my a and called me black btch. He have a tattoo of the confederate flag and one of a swastika. Then her much later comment on another website said something about her being a single mother with two kids and she lived at her parents house. So you can pretty much guess so what happened here. It would most likely be identically had she been Latina, asian, thus. it could be just a fetish. the white kind of, black and white, Latina, hard anodized cookware, Or whatever young girls and women tend to be naive regarding relationships. Life is not a big ol’ fairy tale where looks don’t matter, The personalities always win, And Prince Charming whisk you away to a castle in the sky. which is life, womens. simply because natures way. Most of them are only interested in spreading their seed, And/or sexl gratification. It is my comprehending the name stems from a story from the 18th century. Where the Black Boy Inn is found today, It is said that ended up two public houses there; The Fleur de Lys and King’s palms. He had kind of black boy as a go fer, in the Inn. That band was was sometimes which may be called the “dark-colored Boys, purportedly for their practice of disguising themselves and painting their faces Indian style. In instant aftermath of Pontiac’s war, Fearing that the pack trains of eastern trading firms included contraband arms as well as goods that were being shipped to the Indians in Ohio, James Smith led his Black Boys upon raids on the traders’ pack locomotives, Destroying goods in shipments that were not alongside letters of safe passage indicating that the shipment previously had been inspected and included no contraband. ( Full fix )

    What do you do when I am on a date with a boy?

    (the winter months)1. Take a drive to look at the christmas decorations. 2. Play cards you may strip poker. 3. Watch a movie together with.4. head outdoors and have a snowball fight. 5. Get some finger paints and create your own [url=][/url] body art jointly as your canvass. 6. Go sleigh horse riding. 7. Go ice boarding. 8. 9. Stage your own improvisation show. 10. Sing together. 11. Review or create a scrapbook or scrapbook of your memories together. 12. Play a board game perhaps chess, Scrabble or tornado. 13. go to a book store, Get coffee and read for hours. (originate) 14. Work on a remodel project together 15. Plan and complete a yard work project together. 16. Do the spring cleaning along with room by room. in the event that done, make it rewarding by making love in the room you’ve cleaned. 17. Put on old clothes and mud wrestle if we do drenching rain. 18. Give each other a massage. 19. Play catch golf, basketball, softball or Frisbee.20. Go to a car dealer and test drive the car you have always wanted. 21. Shoot basketball game together. 22. Dance as partners. 23. stand under the shower together and wash each other everywhere. 24. Take a free adult tutori class together. 25. Go to a mall and have a contest to determine what one of you can get the most free samples. 26. Go skating or bike riding. (spring) 27. set up a campfire and roast marshmallows.28. swimming or skinny dipping. 29. Give each other a manicure or pedicure. 30. Go somewhere crowded to watch. 31. Go to a free free-spirited event, likely a concert. 32. Lie on a blanket outside and watch the clouds or stars. 33. Go on a picnic. 34. Watch a fireworks demonstrate to. 35. go to town and engage in sexual role plays. Be anyone you’d like to be for the night who is also exciting for him / her. 36. Sit by this particular somewhere.37. Do a prolonged strip tease for each other. 38. Have a water balloon fight. 39. Sit outside and read poetry to each other. (come out) 40. Go for a drive alongside. 41. Go window looking for. 42. Incorporate food into your intimacy chocolate syrup, Whipped treatments, Fondue, Strawberries anything you and your partner enjoy. 43. Call or write to someone you haven’t had connection with in a while.44. Cook something in concert. 45. Spend an evening just talking collectively. Talk about the things you have done, Plans you have money, Important people for you or current events. 46. Take a bubble bath with each other. 47. visit the free movie or museum. 48. Take a drive and find the actual possibility in old houses and their properties. 49. Create an unreal story together either orally or in written form. 50. Take turns being one another’s genie in a bottle by fulfilling your partner’s every wish and fantasy. 51. Play in the fallen foliage. 52. Create an exhilarating scavenger hunt that ends in your bed. ( Full pickup )

    What do you do if a boy you are lyke in love with is black and your mom wont let you date him becuz he’s black?

    Call your mom over and tell her to sit down then talk to her about it. its the 21st century.. [url=[email protected]/][/url] individuals don’t judge people just because the colour of their skin. Everyone is the same. I know your my mother but if talk to your me to date him then i don’t care. Nothing may stop me from dating him, Nobody stop me, If you thought about me you would let me date him. about this stop me… RomanceGurl… I hope it will aid you, do not anyone stop you. : ) ( Full respond )

    Are schokofarbene ice skates for boys?

    absolutely yes, dark colored ice skates are for boys. In figure ice skating, My theory is that black is supposed to differentiate a male figure skater from a female figure skater, Who wear whitened ice skates. White and black ice skates are for business usage, and, should not be sold to a person with no skating experience at all. ( Full clear-cut conclusion )

    What is black boys dating white girls?

    Some parents cannot stand for there kids to date blacks/whites. My dad for doesn’t want me to date blacks, He is not against them he actually has plenty of friends that are blacks he just wants me to find a nice white guy. now, I guess it depends on how you grow up. and furthermore, exactly what family your in. If the family members hate blacks and other colors for some unknown reason than the white girl might not be going to date the black boy. ( Full method ).

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