It’s gettin’ hot in here, so take off all your clothes with our tips, tricks and toys for sensational temperature play!
Here’s your complete guide to all things hot n’ cold, so you can chill out with icy orgasms for shuddering satisfaction or bring the heat for super boosted arousal.
So, temper your desire with our Glacier Glass and Hot Hardware collections, explore the thrill of cooling and warming lubes, and savour every drop of our kinky wax play candles… Have we ignited your interest yet?
So, What Is Temperature Play?
Oh, you’re looking to spice up your sex life? A great way to turn up the heat is with Temperature Play, a type of Sensation Play. Sensation Play, funnily enough, involves invigorating the senses – touch, taste, smell, sight and sound.
Temperature is a fantastic method for stimulating those oh-so-sensitive touch receptors. A higher or lower temperature, whether from a slowly melting ice cube or a warmed metal sex toy, will bring those feel-good sensations right to the forefront of your partner’s pleasure.
There is such a range of ways to explore temperature play, from accessible, beginner-friendly practices to much more advanced kink. Don’t sweat it, we’re going to go over this later!
Some like It Hot…
There are many reasons people like using temperature play in their sexy sessions. They tend to vary depending on what practice you engage in, so experiment and find out what really gets you hot and bothered! Let’s break it down for you:
- Heightened sensations – Heating things up or cooling things down makes a tempting touch even harder to ignore. It will feel starkly different to when you run your fingers over your playmate’s skin due to the toe-curling temperature difference.
- Increased Arousal – Much like a massage, the warmth of a toy can help you relax! The more relaxed you are, the easier it’ll be to climax, thanks to increased blood flow.
- Creating more intimacy – Like with all kinks, communication is KEY. Talk your playmate through what you’re doing. Whether that’s warming some heavenly massage oil or tracing a cooled spoon across their sweet spots. Not only will this build anticipation, but it’ll bring you closer and help you learn what makes your partner shiver and sigh.
- Pain = Pleasure – Certain types of temperature play are perfect for walking that line between pain and pleasure. Having hot wax dripped across your body may sound like bliss to you but may not for others. Read MedicalNewsToday’s article on Pain as a source of Pleasure to find out more.
Types of Temperature Play
There are many ways to explore temperature play so let us enlighten you! If you’re just starting out and looking to explore, you don’t need to go hardcore right out the gate. You can still make your partner all hot under the collar without investing in toys straight away.
Grab yourself a glass of ice water and cool down your mouth. Then, go down on your partner – wherever you roam, you’ll make them shiver! Drag an ice cube across their skin and tease them with its tantalising frosty touch. Or, if you want to make your playmate sweat instead, this works equally well with a mug of hot water. You could also hop in the shower together to get things…steamy.
Now, let’s get into all the goodies you can use to turn up the temperature in your sex life!
Sensational Lubes
If you’re apprehensive about using actual heat, then a tingling or warming lube may be the best place to start. Not only do these sensual sex aids do what a standard lube would, they add an extra dimension to your foreplay. Since these sensory lubricants heighten your sensitivity, our top tip is to blow on the skin to make it really intense!
Remember: Patch test products before you go ahead and splash them around your sensitive areas. Warming and tingling = good. Burning and itching = bad. Ouch!
Massage Oils
Erotic, sensual massage is bound to bring the heat, so fire up your foreplay and leave your chosen bottle of oil in some warm (NOT boiling) water. Amp things up even more by getting a warming massage oil or massage candle. Much like a warming lube, this will enhance every rub and knead from your partner as it increases blood flow. Soothe tension, boost arousal and ignite your passions for deep relaxation.
Glass
Glass is an excellent sex toy material for many reasons. Today, however, we’re focusing on why it’s an amazing choice for temperature play. This superconductive, sparkling substance can be dunked in iced or warm water for 10-15 minutes to deliver shuddering delights.
If you’re interested in a little backdoor bliss, a warmed glass butt plug is an ideal way to ease into things. It’ll help you (and your butt hole) relax so you can knock on heaven’s door all night long.
Please Note: DO NOT put your glass sex toys in the freezer or in boiling water! Burns hurt at the best of times, let alone in your intimate areas.
Fancy reading up on glass sex toys? Check out our blog of 10 Reasons Why Glass Is Your Next Best Toy.
Stainless Steel
If you love the idea of glass but fancy something a little more heavy-duty then metal sex toys are for you! Not only is stainless steel a perfect conductor, its glittering surface glides smoothly across the skin, internally and externally, to supercharge your orgasms.
Forged for nights of wild frivolity, these solid styles can be left in cool or warm water for 10-15 minutes till you’re ready to get hot and heavy. Slide a chilled metal cock ring on for a trembling member that’ll blow your partner’s mind!
Please Note: DO NOT put your metal sex toys in the freezer or in boiling water! That’s one awkward trip to A&E you don’t want to have!
If you need any more convincing that you should give metal sex toys a go, have a read of our blog of 10 Solid Reasons Why Steel Is So Satisfying.
With both glass and stainless steel, you should test the temperature of the toy before you use it on your partner. Holding it on the skin of your inner arm is a great way to see if it’s too hot or cold so you can avoid any unnecessary injuries.
Wax Play
Wax play is not for the faint of heart, so if you’re a naughty newbie, make sure you do your research and prepare before you dive in. It’s one of the kinkier kinds of Sensation Play because it straddles the line between pain and pleasure.
To adorn your playmate with delectable droplets, light your chosen candle and hold it at a distance (we suggest between 30-20cm) above their back, buttocks, chest…the options are endless. Mix up the distance, the location and the density of the drops to keep your partner guessing. Some experienced players will mix this with other forms of BDSM to truly intensify playtime.
Dedicated wax play candles are made from paraffin wax and burn at a much lower temperature than your standard home decor. So, as the drops fall through the air, they cool, delivering a satisfying sting. Once the wax cools, double dip on that titillating temperature play and get a cooled spoon or butter knife to scrap off all that waxy goodness.
Wax Safety
Obviously, with fire and hot wax involved, there is a potential for burns. So, avoid any unnecessary ouchies by:
- Holding the candle at a safe distance – we recommend at least 20cm from the body part you’re painting with all those delicious melty drips
- Keeping wax and flames away from hair and sensitive areas – not only is this common sense, but wax can hurt a hell of a lot when being removed from a hairy chest
- Not using oils on the skin before you light up your night – While ideal for a sensual massage, oils, like baby oil, can be flammable! If you’re using a wax play candle and not a decorative one, then it should peel right off once cooled, so there’s no need for a barrier between your skin and the wax
If you’re already kinky, then you’ll probably have a first aid kit for sessions, but if not, we recommend having one to hand just in case! Play safe and have fun 😉
So, have we lit a fire under you? Or, do you already shiver with desire for a spot of temperature play? Let us know in the comments below!
