Does your bedroom routine feel a little stale? Or, perhaps, you just want to improve your intimacy? Well, we’ve made a list of beginner-friendly ways to spice up sex and take it from boring to bangin’!
Read more to level up your lovemaking and impress your partner with your smooth moves…
1. Talk Dirty… And Spice up Sex!
The ultimate tool for spicing up sex is actually… your brain! Talking about your wants and needs is not only great for your relationship, but it can also make your bedroom activities much more fulfilling. So, whether you’re having an honest conversation about boundaries (which everyone should do BTW… don’t skip this! Check out our Yes, No, Maybe List if you’re unsure) or you’re having a naughty conversation, communication is key.
Dive in with love notes, sexting or dirty talk to up the anticipation throughout the day, and you’ll have your partner begging for more. Sending that cheeky text is the perfect way to get out of your head and let them know you’re on their mind!
2. Switching Positions
Let’s be honest – Missionary is not the be-all and end-all of sex positions. Exploring new positions together can stimulate erogenous zones you’ve never delved into or even allow you to relax and enjoy sex in a way you haven’t before. It might even be the very thing you need to finally reach the G-spot! Switching angles will encourage you to view your partner (and their body) in a whole new way.
But, remember to ease into it; Don’t go for the advanced stuff without some stretching beforehand. Try modified versions of the classics first 😉
Need some inspiration? Check out our sex positions tag for plenty of naughty ideas!
3. Location, Location, Location
Oh, you’ve already got a roster of stellar sex positions in place? Well, have you tried having sex outside the bedroom? In our recent survey, 84.5% of you told us you keep your sexual exploits in the bedroom. However, there is something to be said for a change of location…
You don’t have to go far to start off with! Try taking it to the bathroom or kitchen, and then, when you’re feeling more adventurous, go further afield, like the back garden! Plus, if you’re willing to splash the cash, booking a hotel room for the night allows you to change up your setting without leaving the comfort of a bedroom setting.
4. Spice up Sex with Naughty Game Night!
If you’re looking for a way to break the ice, there’s no better way than a sexy game! Not only do they help you change up your boring sex routine, but they’re hilarious. Having a laugh and enjoying time together is just as important as any other aspect of foreplay. The spontaneity and sexual tension of the game’s outcome add to the fun, but they are also great for encouraging communication if it doesn’t come as naturally. We can all be a bit awkward about sex sometimes!
It’s the perfect way to relax together, and it encourages you to try new positions or acts. So, let the dice decide how dirty date night will get…
5. Upgrade Your Undies
Nothing feels quite as nice as new sexy lingerie. It looks good and makes you feel great! So, have a clear-out and retire some of those old undies. You know the ones I mean, the baggy ones with the holes!
Treat yourself and get some underwear that makes you feel amazing – when you feel good, you’re going to be more confident and by extension, you’re going to have better sex. So, find the perfect piece for you with our lingerie guide.
And, this isn’t just for the ladies… Calling all guys! There is more to Men’s Underwear than black boxers. Try experimenting with silk or lace and discover new styles such as jockstraps or cheeky backless pants.
6. Good Cop, Sexy Cop
You’ve probably known each other for a while, right? So, why not be someone else for a change! Roleplay allows you to get out of your head, stop overthinking every moment and instead focus on having fun with something different.
If you’re unsure where to start (and costumes aren’t your thing), then try going out for a ‘first date’; Pretend you’re meeting for the first time again and feel that build of anticipation. Then, take that super sexy energy home and into the bedroom.
However, if you want to do the whole she-bang, generate some fantasies that appeal to both of you. Maybe you’ve always wanted to be a bit naughty, so cops and robbers scratches the itch. Or perhaps you want to take a walk on the wild side with a kinky kitty costume! Whatever kind of roleplay you’re into, they’ll be an outfit for you.
7. Sensual Touches
Get back to basics and learn what makes your partner tick again! Massage can be an excellent way to explore each other’s bodies and reconnect. Not only is it very hands-on intimacy, but it also allows you both to relax into those intense feel-good sensations.
Light a bunch of candles, put on some spa music, and then focus on each other for 20 minutes. Play with massage oil, feather ticklers, silky handcuffs or even blindfolds and watch for your lover’s reaction to every touch. Sometimes we find something that works and just concentrate on that every time, but taking the time to warm up and be fully aroused will massively benefit your sex life.
8. Explore Toys and More… To Spice up Sex!
If you’re reading this blog, then chances are you either already own some sex toys or you’re at the very least familiar with them. Nonetheless, using toys with your partner for the first time can feel very different. The important thing to remember is sex toys are not there to replace anyone; they’re there to add to the experience!
We’d recommend getting a couple’s set as it’ll include everything you’ll need to get started. These can range from fairly basic and beginner friendly to kinkier, including blindfolds, feather ticklers and other bondage gear. Explore the stimulating sensations these sexy extras bring to the bedroom and spice up your sex life!
Did you learn something from this list, or were your already a sexual savant? Let us know how you’ve gotten on with these intimacy-boosting ideas 😉
