Hand Up To Better Handjobs

Underrated or overplayed? Handjobs receive such mixed reviews; from women who are sure their partners can self-stimulate better to men who would rather have a blowie; then there are the lucky few who strike cum gold with their partner.

Your take on handjobs

Jace, London: “Never grip super hard. Medium to light pressure always works for me. Men love being caressed too, always build up to it!”

Alice, Newcastle: “A handy can be looooovely on top of fabric like pants or trousers, or even through a pocket. Feels naughty.”

Luke, Hertfordshire: “Being little spoon is the best part of handjobs.”

Sebastian, Brighton: “A firm but gentle massage of the taint with a second hand is always 100/10. If your hands are big enough, you can hook your thumb and finger around the shaft base, then use your other fingers to rub and apply pressure to the gooch.”

Alex, Manchester: “My opinion on giving handjobs is that I do not like it – feels like something they could do better themselves, I feel like I’m hurting them!”

Elle, London: “Don’t grip too hard but also don’t not apply pressure. You can also use lube or spit if it feels like it’s getting too dry (ESPECIALLY if they’re circumcised).”

Linden, Leeds: “No one can do it better than your own right hand”.

Matt, Cambridge: “They suck.”

How to give a handjob

If you have ever received a handjob, you can feel the keen difference between the calm confidence of a seductive god (or goddess) versus the panicked rush of a handjob rookie. If you’ve never gifted a handjob but would like to, read on.

• Tip 1: Communicate and establish consent – communication is vital to a positive sexual experience. Ask your partner what pressure and speed they enjoy. For those who struggle with verbalisation, write down your thoughts for your partner to read – it’s still sexy, I promise! There’s no harm in talking throughout the sex act to check in with each other.

• Tip 2: Practice good hygiene – Make sure everything, including hands, is clean and ready to go. We don’t want to risk infections or UTIs! Even though handjobs are relatively low risk for transmitting sexually transmitted infections (STIs), there’s nothing uncool about being responsible for your health.

• Tip 3: Wrap it—Despite testing for STIs and showering some givers and receivers feel more comfortable using protection. Condoms, latex sheets, and gloves can reduce anxieties and aid with clean-up.

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• Tip 4: Hold the penis – Your partner and you can be sitting or lying down, or a combo of either. Using whatever hand feels comfortable, take hold of the penis between the shaft and the hood (where the foreskin would be if your partner is circumcised) and stroke up and down. Start soft and slow.

• Tip 5: Use your whole hand – Try using your fingertips to trace along the shaft, cup the testes in your palm, and tickle the taint (or perineum – the area between the balls and anus). My personal favourite is to roll your thenar eminence (the ball of your palm beneath your thumb) over the tip of the penis to stimulate the head. If you fancy being a real tease, titillate the member with an Ostrich Feather Tickler.
• Tip 6:  Why use some lube, of course! – While spit reduces friction for handjobs, sexual lubricant is designed to last longer without drying up. Also, slimier usually equals better, and if you’re working up to oral sex, then I’d recommend the Passion Fruit Flavoured Lubricant.

• Tip 7: Try different grips—Once you’ve settled on your partner’s ideal grip, experiment with stroking up and down with different grips. Try a twisting motion to stimulate the shaft differently. Build up to what works for everyone!

• Tip 8: Use both hands – Get that second hand involved to stimulate more of the penis surface area. The receiver experiences more pleasure and makes their penis look bigger, boosting confidence. It’s a win-win!

• Tip 9: Eye contact—Checking in with your partner can extend beyond the verbal. Intimate eye contact can increase tension and be super sexy. Don’t go for the Kubrick stare; that might be a bit off-putting.

Level up your amateur handjob game

• Through the fabric – Confident with the basics? Initiate foreplay or the stand-alone sex act by teasing your partner through clothing to generate friction that simulates grinding. Over trousers, pants or through a pocket will drive your partner wild and make them feel irresistible.
• Experiment with edging – What is edging, you ask? It‘s a super sexy technique that includes delaying the handjob cumshot, bringing your partner or yourself to the edge of orgasm before decreasing intensity and starting again, and adding variety to your sex (because believing sex is just penis-in-vagina is so outdated) or combining all three. Therefore, edging can be a joint exercise in stamina training to help your partner last longer before release.
• Invest in some toys – Don’t knock it before you try it, male sex toys can benefit all partners, penis and vagina owners. Fleshlights can help couples who struggle to have PIV (penis-in-vagina) sex. Regardless of whether you struggle with navigating post-partum in the bedroom, endometriosis, vaginismus or your period, Male Masturbators can be a fun way to steer through the sexual complexities of life. Mutual masturbation is allowed to be more than manual! This Clutch Vibrating Massager is a tasteful first step into the world of male sex toys for those who are feeling curious.

Help your partner Stand to Attention with these Cock Rings; coupled with edging, cock rings can create a stamina training combo and keep your partner harder for longer, especially if they struggle to maintain a firm erection.

Fancy tantalising your partner in another way? Gifting a Plush Blindfold Mask will enhance the sensations and excitement you give your partner by dulling their sense of sight.

All hands-on dick

The takeaway is that humans are holistic; some people may like a hand, whereas others would rather jerk off alone. Communicative, safe, consensual sex is always going to be hot, and if you feel like you’re struggling in the bedroom, don’t feel ashamed to bring in some sex toy aids to add a novel dynamic. A Fleshlight will either work for you, or you’ll laugh! Laughing as a couple can help build bonds, increase feelings of love, and improve well-being. Have fun!

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