Well here is our bucket list of must-try pleasures, and you never know, a one-off experiment may awaken new desire and spice up your sex life for good!
1. Sex outdoors
Sure your bed is more comfortable than a skip in the alleyway behind Sainsbury’s, and yes twigs in your bum crack aren’t ideal, and okay getting spotted by Mrs. Watson on her way to the post office wasn’t part of the plan, but sex outdoors can be so much fun!
Some people love the idea of being watched while having sex; we’ll call these people exhibitionists. If this is you’re type of thing then maybe dogging could be an exciting venture. However, if you’re someone who’s more turned on by the risk of getting caught, then maybe somewhere like the supplies closet at work could be hotter. And if you’re more of a ‘getting back to nature’ sort of person, then try taking a picnic blanket to a remote field or woodland and just enjoy being sexual somewhere free and beautiful (and hope that you don’t get chased off my an angry farmer).
Oh the ménage à trios, probably at the top of every man’s bucket list but definitely something everyone should try. If you’re heterosexual, there are of course two main ways to go with; two guys and one girl, or two girls and one very lucky guy.
So actually, perhaps the ‘3sum’ is something you should try twice; once as the ‘centre of attention’ with either two guys or two girls, and once as a part of the ‘two’, thus getting to enjoy the best of both worlds; you have a man and a woman to play with.
In a threesome you get to enjoy voyeurism, exhibitionism, bisexuality, opening your mind to being touched by someone new and trying things you’ve never done before… so we say that three is definitely now a crowd and make sure the infamous threesome is on your bucket list.
3. Anal Sex
Going in through the back door, taking the dirt track, earning your brown wings, buggery! Anal sex is brilliant, and if you haven’t tried it you’re missing out. If you think it’s dirty, douche! If you think it will be painful, build up and use lube… and even then if you think it feels strange or you don’t enjoy it, at least you can cross it off your list.
If you feel that for you right now anal sex is a little ‘too much too soon’, you could always try a finger in the bum or using an anal toy – then cross those off your bucket list. Remember that condoms aren’t just for penises; if you want to stay hygienic you could always put a condom over your finger before exploring your secret back pocket.
And to our heterosexual male readers, don’t just sit smug as ‘the giver’ in the scenario; ever heard of pegging? Oh yes. Let your girlfriend fuck you in the ass with a friendly strap-on dildo. You have ‘g-spot’ in there after all! Well, a part of your prostate gland to be more precise. Stimulating this will feel amazing and result in an immense orgasm.
Maybe you’ve been there, done that, got the cane marks… but for those of you who’ve always been a little more vanilla and perhaps read “Fifty Shades of Grey” last summer it’s time to muster the courage and add a little pain to your pleasure.
There is a belief that the majority of people have a natural inclination to be either dominant or submissive in bed, and with a little experimentation you may just discover which of the roles you prefer.
Ropes, leather, whips, ball-gags… it all sounds rather frightening to the unfamiliar amongst you, but BDSM can be a very sensual and highly erotic experience. When you remove one sense, i.e., vision, you heighten another, such as touch. When you make the skin more sensitive, such as from hot wax or a light spanking, everything the person feels from then on is more intense and stimulating.
So don’t be afraid to free your inner dominatrix or lowly slave. If you’re unsure where to start there are plenty of online forums and communities for this type of thing, so get chatting!
5. Holiday romance
“Je t’aime.” “Te quiero.” “Ti amo.” “I love you.” “Tu es si belle.” “Eres tan hermosa.” “Sei così bella.” “You’re so beautiful.” “Je ne vous oublierai jamais.” “Nunca me olvidaré de ti.” “Io non ti dimenticherò mai.” “I will never forget you.”
Oh the joys of a holiday romance! The sea seems to glitter beneath the glowing sun, the girls are topless, the boys are horny and the Sangria is flowing day and night. What’s not to love?
There’s no work, no horrible British weather, no rules… so why not throw caution to the wind? (Well, not all caution – wear a condom of course!) Sex on holiday has to be one for your bucket list! Why not make it even more risqué? Sex on the beach? Sex in a pool? That’s you’re ‘sex in public’ sorted as well! Two birds with one beach ball.
And ladies, even if you know he’s used that same cheesy line on thirty other tourists this summer, just this once, allow yourself to be seduced. What’s the harm in a bit of fun? You were never going to marry him anyway.
6. Group sex
Too many sausages spoil the mash? No? Perhaps a little crude even for me…
Group sex, otherwise known as the ‘orgy’, is a grand indulgence of the flesh. Breasts and balls every which way, a wildly erotic experience which is physically and visually stimulating.
Five women and one man? Harem.
Five men and one woman? Bukkake.
Three women and three men? Well balanced orgy – hurrah!
If you ever get the chance to attend an orgy, do so! Invitations like that don’t come around often. Don’t want to leave it to fate? Arrange your own orgy. Spread the word on internet forms, even interview potential participants over coffee; your orgy, your rules.
7. Lap dance at a strip club
Hopefully you’ve not been put off erotic dance for life after seeing Miley Cyrus ‘twerk it’ at the VMAs. Whether you’re a man or a woman, getting a private dance at a strip club can be such a turn on! The adoring men, the beautiful, scantily-clad women, the smell of whisky and desperation…
A lot of strip clubs offer couples dances, so she’ll dance for the both of you, then on her lap as he watches, on his lap as she watches, so even if you’re in a relationship you can still indulge in a bit of voyeurism and share in a very sexual experience.
Sex shows are another one to try, such as in Bangkok or Amsterdam, though these are often more for fun than actually sexy – but definitely an experience not to pass up!
8. Record a sex tape
Paris Hilton did it, Kim Kardashian did it… and if you don’t know who either of those people are then I like you already…
Making your own sex tape can be hot. We’ve all watched our fair share of porn, but what if instead of watching some heavily moustached guy going at it with some awkward Barbie doll, it were something a lot more relatable? Let’s say, you and a partner!
Maybe you’ve always been curious as to how the two of you look or would like a permanent record of one of your wildest fantasies, but just remember to keep it somewhere safe and secure; you don’t want that falling into the wrong hands!