Take a look at your closest college’s prospectus, chances are ‘Sexual Mastery’ isn’t one of the courses on offer. The sad fact is, if you’re lacking in sexual skills, there aren’t too many sex schools to help you improve.
Thankfully, there are a number of must-have sex toys that you can use alone or with a partner to help you become a sexual savant. If you’re looking to impress in the bedroom, take some time studying up on the following. This is one class you’ll be wanting homework from.
Guys, Boost Your Bedroom Stamina
If your sexual prowess is already blowing your partner’s mind, that’s great! If it only lasts for five minutes, then that might be a problem, no matter how honed your skills are.
Premature ejaculation is more prevalent than you may think, with around 20%-30% of men claiming to have experienced it at some point. PE can have big impacts on a couple’s sex life, not only during the act but also outside the bedroom, causing stress, anxiety and depression.
While there are a number of causes for premature ejaculation, many can be alleviated through ‘stamina training’. Also called ‘orgasm control’ or ‘edging’, this is the act of masturbation until close to orgasm, then allowing things to die down again. This process is repeated several times to ‘train’ the body to control when and how it achieves orgasm – slowing things down during the real thing.
Fleshlights offer an excellent way to take part in this ‘training’. Its closeness to the real sensation boosts the results you can get while practicing, as well as leading to even more enjoyable orgasms. For any man looking to improve their sexual stamina, frequent sessions with their Fleshlight offer a great opportunity.
Learn to “Listen”
For many couples, understanding what the other person likes or dislikes is the main challenge. Every person achieves orgasm differently and slight nuances in what you do can have a big impact. So learning to ‘listen’ to your other half, truly understanding what they enjoy can definitely put you in their good books.
Again, sex toys here offer an amazing opportunity to explore your partner’s sexual preferences. If your partner is a woman, a vibrator or dildo gives you an opportunity to concentrate on her. Is she responsive more clitoral attention or vaginal penetration? How does speed, rhythm, angle, etc. impact her pleasure? Being a good lover relies on how well you can spot these signs.
Maybe even try remote control sex toys. As they rely on verbal feedback, they can help you better understand what your other half enjoys.
Banish Erectile Dysfunction
Sex toys can also help address the problems causing erectile dysfunction. While the more significant biological or psychological causes may require medical input, the increased satisfaction that sex toys offer can help remove some of the causes. Putting aside the mental side effects ED can cause, it’s quite a significant barrier if you’re looking to be a sexual savant.
If you haven’t heard, vibrators aren’t just for women. Male vibrators, in particular vibrating cock rings and prostate massagers, can help you achieve a firmer erection for longer. With a variety of different options available, you’re able to find the toy that best suits you.
If you’ve been excitably waiting for the opportunity to show off your sexual skills only to be let down thanks to erectile dysfunction, be sure to explore the male stimulating sex toys options available to you.
Sex Toys and Vagina Rejuvination
Along with the many other outcomes of menopause, vaginal tissue becoming thinner and dryer and vaginal atrophy are likely to be some of the least welcomed. This can result in unsatisfying and even painful sex.
You may have guessed it, sex toys can help alleviate those issues helping to bring sexual satisfaction and excitement back into the bedroom.
Vibrators used for penetrative masturbation can increase blood flow to the area. Enjoying some alone time with your vibrating silicone friend can help rejuvenate vaginal muscles. Much like avoiding certain parts of your body in the gym, under-utilised muscles can become tired and deteriorate, the same can happen to the vagina during menopause. Of course, there’s no gyms offering vaginal exercises, but the same benefits can be found at home with your vibrator.
While there are many creams and gels that can reintroduce muscles’ elasticity and alleviate dryness, sex toy masturbation offers a chemical-free, enjoyable way to breathe new air into your sex life.
Learn About Your Own Body
While you may be preoccupied with trying to figure out what our other half enjoys sexually, it’s important to remember that mutual sexual satisfaction comes from understanding what you enjoy as well.
Sex is a communal act and if it’s only fun for one person, then it stops being fun for everyone involved. That’s why knowing your body and your bedroom preferences and being able to communicate them is so important.
One study claims that the number of women who never experience orgasm through unaided penetrative sex is as high as 75%, with 10-15% saying they never achieve orgasm under any circumstances.
It’s important to note, in many instances the difficulty to experience orgasm is not the fault of either sexual participant. Every woman achieves orgasm differently and for some it is something that is difficult or impossible to experience.
However, this offers the opportunity to explore the wide array of sexual stimulation on offer, helping to get a better understanding of exactly what you enjoy or don’t enjoy. Sexual stimulation is in no way limited to penetrative sexual intercourse.
Sex toy kits and bundles offer a range of different toys to help explore every facet of your sexual self. With a dizzying number of sex toys on offer, kits and bundles offer a way to taste every sexual satisfaction option – think of a buffet for your bedroom enjoyment.
Conclusion
If you want to enter the league of sexual savant, there’s no way better than exploring the sexual satisfaction options available to you. That’s right, class assignment is to enjoy some alone time with your favourite sex toy – and you’re welcome to try and get extra credit!
Bio
Written by Lucy Jones; sexual savant, lover of romance and community manager for cougar dating site Toyboy Warehouse.
