Are you closer to 33 seconds or 44 minutes? In research by Dr Brendan Zietsch, both ends of the spectrum and everything in between were hit. An average of 5.4 minutes has reassured some men that their ten minute performance is more than satisfactory. For others, premature ejaculation remains a serious concern.
Whether for immediate effects or more permanent results, there are plenty of ways to help you last longer in bed. Find out our tried and tested recommendations – from quick fixes to more permanent results.
It’s time to take control of your climax.
If you’ve seen There’s Something About Mary, you’ll remember Dom’s infamous – but not particularly charming – advice to “choke the chicken before a big date” (although we don’t endorse using semen as hair gel). Dubbed a ‘tactical wank’, this is an easy and enjoyable way to last longer in bed. By masturbating an hour or two before you expect to have sex, you’ll release tension and be more relaxed when it comes to the real thing.
Applied to the head and shaft of the penis 20-30 minutes before sex (check the product’s instructions), delay creams gently desensitise your penis without affecting your level of pleasure. Most use all-natural ingredients, so you can confidently enjoy longer sex.
Particular styles of condoms are designed to extend your performance. Whether it’s by a thicker material or desensitising lubricant, you’ll receive instantaneous effects with ultimate discretion, should that be important to you.
Missionary and doggy style are most likely to make you come, so try focussing on her pleasure instead. Positions such as cowgirl put her control and stop the temptation of climax. Encourage her to lean forward and rest on her elbows; your penetration will be less deep but with a greater chance of hitting her G-spot – a result for both of you! Stuck for inspiration? Check out 5 Sex Positions Everyone Should Try.
Have an Interval
If you can feel yourself getting close, pause penetration and return to foreplay. The contrast in sensation between your hard penis and soft, wet tongue will feel incredible for her and give you a chance to cool off.
Bringing more to the bedroom than a lot of a fun, toys are also beneficial to your sex life. Cock rings and cock sleeves are designed to increase your stamina. By restricting blood flow out of the penis, you’ll enjoy a harder erection and prolonged ejaculation. Take the time to play around, exploring the affordable options and vibrating features on offer.
For longer-lasting results, ‘edging’ is a form of masturbation training (doesn’t sound too bad, does it?) that you can practice during sex, but many prefer to do it solo.
- Set aside twenty minutes and relax (atmospheric lighting, music and candles optional)
- Bring yourself to the brink of climax and STOP. You can do this with just your hand or a masturbator toy if you like the challenge of extra stimulation
- Relax and repeat
As much as it pains us to say it, masturbation is an unhealthy habit as the only goal is to climax – often as quickly as you can. By practicing edging, you’re training your body out of this pattern.
Simple to do and easy to fit into your day, kegel exercises promise to improve sexual performance. To find your pelvic floor muscles, stop yourself in the middle of urination; those are the muscles you want to target. Now you know where they are, you can work them whenever you please.
- Contract your muscles for at least three seconds
- Relax for three seconds
- Aim for ten repetitions of three sets per day
As well as increased stamina, stronger kegel muscles can also deliver more explosive orgasms, improved penile blood flow and an all-round, healthier prostate.
Try out these techniques and discover the best method for you. You don’t need to have a twelve-hour sex marathon; 15-20 minutes is the perfect goal to aim for. Let us know how you get on!