Me and my wife have been looking for something to keep her in place and this does the job held up well as we are on the bigger size. perfect for beginners to start with bdsm easy use. Only down side is the pin pops out but easy to fix one you know your size you need bar just run a nut and bolt through it

The bar is strong, although if the user who holds the bar has sweaty hands, hehe, could slip, could do with some kind of grips, non-slip, the cuffs, for the wrists fitted my wife, no problems, ankle ones, I used my own.....the bar is long enough, although I was easy on my wife at first, extended it from one end, the wife said it spreads her legs wide, better than me holding on to her ankles as the bar can push back, virtual behind your partners head, the bar doesn't bend, at all.....you could also put a couple of hooks in the wall above the headboard to rest the bar on while legs are back, or ceiling hooks, with rope, tied around each end of the bar, and string your partner up with the bar, that's what I'm going to introduce to my wife, very soon...... Delivery was next day, although there was a slight hole in the box, the dpd delivery driver said, there's a bar poking through, and grinned, ha, oh well. I think everything was there, I've had ordered from bondara lots of times, but have kept the toys for my wife, introduce them slowly, one was a metal butt plug, a couple of dildos ect, kept away for another surprise. never had anything wrong with any item, and they last, I wouldn't go anywhere else, prices are ok not overpriced. Always get a discount. Quality is excellent, and I'll be coming back for more bondage gear for my wife in the future, I don't know what to choose next. Now I've introduced my wife to bondage ect, I don't know why I didn't a long time ago, I thought she would say no, ha, and I've never done it before, what an experience it is, anyone wanting this spreader bar, get it. Thank you for lovely products, the best.

Purchased this spreader bar last week, I set it up Last night and placed it under my wife's pillow with the leg cuffs sticking out at sides,, although I did use my own leg cuffs,padded one's with padlocks, I said "do you like your present love?" Slight grin and twinkle in her eyes, "errrrr, yea," "do you know what it is"? "I don't know" ha, I said it's to keep your legs spead wide. "Ohhh is it?" Yes, "naughty girls get punished", When we got on bed, I moved it to my side, and I lost one of the pins that connects the bar,I still can't find it, so we couldn't use it Last night, so today I found some bolts with wingnuts, and two braided six inches clasp cords which will extend the leg cuffs from the bar even wider, ,wife said she will give it a go tonight,but she is a bit shy, once she's leg cuffed, maybe hands too, she will love it, wife is in early fifties so she's in her prime, the bar is strong, wife said she might use it on me instead, ha, love to. Wife's never had bondage or and type of BDSM before as I've kept hinting, now I've got this bar, she Will try it

Sturdy, well thought out and lots of fun. The extendable pole works brilliantly and is easily adjusted. Opens my legs nice and wide, the soft cuffs hold me in place. The cuffs really are lovely, they don't irritate at all despite me having really roughed them up. We've had lots of fun with these! A fantastic bit of kit, I can highly recommend!

It's comfortable, sturdy and versitile in its size and use. We have already had great fun with it and have a lot more planned!

This spreader bar, with sturdy metal poles connecting it's four PU cuffs, is one of the best I've seen on the site. The first impressions were that it was very versatile, as the bars are adjustable in length, meaning it suits you whether you've got long or shorter legs and arms. It also means it is comfortable without being too comfortable; you can adjust it to the right level as suits you. The cuffs are sturdy, comfortable and not clunky to use at all. Unlike some designed in similar ways, these cuffs are easy to fasten and fit neatly around ankles and wrists alike; they are soft on the inside too so no matter what wriggling you want to do in these, you won't get awkward burns or sores from the PU material. The bar's detachable cuffs give the security you need to know you can get out in a flash, and also means you can reposition the cuffs along the bar if required. You can also take a range of positions with it too. The product overall is sturdy, comfortable and feels like a luxury spreader bar for a great price. Bondara sent the Stainless Steel Expandable Spreader Bar with Four Cuffs to Sexcapades Secrets free of charge, in exchange for a fair and honest review.