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Better Than Sex<\/h3>\n
The first thing many monogamous people wonder is how a polyamorous relationship works in the bedroom. Well, you can put those erotic thoughts to bed: it\u2019s not<\/em> an orgy night after night. There is a responsibility to emotionally satisfy and love each partner. This requires time, effort and personal touches – just like a monogamous relationship.<\/p>\n When Bondara met lifestyle dominatrix Madame Caramel earlier this year, we discussed her polyamorous relationship. While she lives with her fiancee and her daughter, she has two or three other men that she calls her \u2018husbands\u2019.<\/p>\n \u201cNot every man can offer all that you need. My fiancee is the one that gives me the emotional attachment and connection. I like to play with him but there is a limitation. The other ones are my toy-boys.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n Madame Caramel practices a female led relationship with each of her partners. However, they are strictly forbidden from having any other partners themselves. Although they\u2019re submissive, she emphasised that these men are not clients. As Madame Caramel proves, all polyamorous relationships are different and there is no \u2018correct way\u2019 to be poly.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Polyamorous relationships still face the same problems as any monogamous relationship, although multiple partners can give additional pressure to such issues.<\/p>\n When a monogamous couple argue, it\u2019s just the two of them but in a polyamorous relationship, it\u2019s easy for an argument to snowball into something that affects everyone. Therefore, it\u2019s important for each partner to remain neutral and know their boundaries.<\/p>\n Speaking of boundaries, there needs to be respect between all partners. While jealousy can make or break any relationship, it is particularly important here. As mentioned above, each partner offers a different, emotional connection and time alone together is vital. Of course, it needs to remain fair, but a polyamorous relationship is not tit for tat and equal attention cannot always be expected.<\/p>\n However, it seems that this is already understood. In a 2014 study, Terri Conley found that those in polyamorous relationships are generally less jealous than those in monogamous relationships. She also found that they tend to have a wider social network, are better communicators and have higher overall relationship satisfaction.<\/p>\n For those who choose to live in \u2018family style polyamory\u2019 (when all partners live in a singular group), it\u2019s likely that, should any of them be parents, the children also live with them. While this is unconventional, Deakin University\u2019s Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli has praised this set-up. Research suggests that children who grow up in this environment have a larger support system and grow up to be more accepting of cultural diversity.<\/p>\n If you\u2019re a monogamous person dating a polyamorous person, take a look at the relationship they have with their other partner(s). Is it something you can see yourself becoming a part of?<\/p>\n All partners involved in a polyamorous relationship must be aware of their position. Discuss where you would stand in this relationship; you don\u2019t want to enter it with a misconception of how you fit in.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n Polyamory may not be the norm and it certainly isn\u2019t for everyone but, for many, it works. What do you think? Leave a comment below and join the conversation.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The saying may be that two\u2019s company, three\u2019s a crowd but that doesn\u2019t always apply – particularly for polyamorous people. Literally translating as \u2018many loves\u2019, polyamory refers to those who have more than one romantic relationship at a time. Sounds like cheating, right? Well, it\u2019s not. A polyamorous relationship requires the consent and knowledge of […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":15,"featured_media":9831,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[3075,4029],"tags":[4484,4372,4424],"class_list":["post-9821","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-lifestyle","category-relationship-advice","tag-lgbt","tag-madame-caramel","tag-polyamory"],"yoast_head":"\n![\"Multiple](\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bondara.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/03\/ltap-1.jpg?resize=328%2C189&ssl=1\")
<\/p>\nThe Ups and Downs<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\nEntering a Polyamorous Relationship<\/h3>\n