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\nAftercare<\/strong><\/p>\n

The media loves to dramatise and show BDSM relationships as latex clad supermodels brandishing whips marching around in six-inch heels tying each other up to hanging trapezes, but as with porn, it\u2019s only half the story.<\/p>\n

BDSM is not about 50 shades of abuse; it involves consent and care and one of the most important parts of this side of a healthy relationship is aftercare. It is the essential part of any BDSM relationship, which TV and film unfortunately ignore.\"\"<\/p>\n

Aftercare is a form of communication, whether it is physical or emotional, which helps to keep everyone involved safe and happy. Any forms of BDSM can be emotionally and physically draining \u2013 excuse the pun. It is something that is not only sexual but also psychological, which means people may need time to recover from activities and this is where aftercare comes in.<\/p>\n

Emotional Aftercare<\/strong><\/p>\n

Emotionally BDSM can leave people feeling a mix of emotions and so there is no single form of emotional care. It may involve calming someone and talking through experiences, examining what has gone on. It\u2019s important to make sure all parties feel comfortable and satisfied. Also it\u2019s a great way of finding out what worked best and can be used to improve BDSM activities in the future, so don\u2019t miss an opportunity to talk seriously.<\/p>\n

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The emotional bond between a couple or group can be strengthened by aftercare, some find this a time for expressing appreciation for one another and talking intimately, making each other feel loved.<\/p>\n

Other people might prefer to be left to themselves or even take a nap and this is why communication is essential throughout BDSM practice and relationships, you need to learn what each other likes.<\/p>\n

Physical Aftercare<\/strong><\/p>\n

Aftercare is not only emotional it is also physical. Depending on your kink, this may come as first aid, tending to any injuries. Lotions and gels for example can be used to relieve some pain and help protect the skin after activities such as whipping and caning.<\/p>\n

Physical practices involve simple things like massages, cuddling and kissing or more practical changes such as taking a bath or changing clothes, different things will help people recover after an activity, so it\u2019s worth finding out what\u2019s best for you.<\/p>\n

Aftercare Myth<\/strong><\/p>\n

There is one big myth, which surrounds BDSM aftercare and that is that in a Dom(me)\/Sub relationship the submissive person is the one who needs aftercare because it is likely they will be on the receiving end of any activity.<\/p>\n

This is actually not true and completely depends on those involved and how they are affected by the scenarios\/activities and how much experience they have. So make sure you don\u2019t just assume someone doesn\u2019t need support.
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Aftercare Supplies<\/strong><\/p>\n

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It\u2019s a good idea to collect an assortment of things that will help you with your aftercare. This entirely depends on how you feel afterwards, but items such as:<\/p>\n