{"id":32311,"date":"2024-08-14T12:40:53","date_gmt":"2024-08-14T11:40:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/blog\/?p=32311"},"modified":"2024-08-14T12:43:18","modified_gmt":"2024-08-14T11:43:18","slug":"5-dos-and-donts-for-swinging-newbies","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/blog\/fetish-friday\/5-dos-and-donts-for-swinging-newbies\/","title":{"rendered":"5 Dos and Don&#8217;ts for Swinging Newbies"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"has-drop-cap wp-block-paragraph\">Swinging, and we&#8217;re not talking about golf. If you&#8217;re curious about &#8216;the lifestyle&#8217; and want to play beyond the bedroom, these tips will get you into the <em>swing <\/em>of it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Is There a Difference Between Polyamory and Swinging?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-8f761849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:67%\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There&#8217;s a lot of overlap as both swinging and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/blog\/lifestyle\/relationship-advice\/lets-talk-polyamory\/\">polyamory<\/a> are kinds of &#8216;open relationships&#8217;. However, what differentiates the two is the number of people, the location, and the emotions involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A swinging couple will likely be in the same room but having sex with others (sometimes together). <strong>There&#8217;s more of an emotional connection within &#8216;polyam&#8217; while swinging can be a bit more casual<\/strong> &#8211; think &#8216;good friends that fuck&#8217; as well as hook-ups. Some poly couples will also be swingers, so don&#8217;t fret!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:33%\"><div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/styles.redditmedia.com\/t5_5px60i\/styles\/communityIcon_ok21nyiwn9d81.png?w=800&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Bondara Sex Toys Blog - 5 Dos and Don'ts For Swinging Newbies - Upside Down Pineapple\"\/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">An upside down pineapple is a common swingers symbol<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Before we start, here&#8217;s quick-fire etiquette list before attending your first swinger&#8217;s do:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Don&#8217;t show up drunk or under the influence, and don&#8217;t do drugs at the venue.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Shower before and use on-hand facilities (like hot towels) to wash up between partners.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Get an STI check-up and any treatments sorted, and bring protection.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Breaching those basic rules could get you kicked out of an event, blacklisted in the community, or even reported to the police. Some swinging couples prefer private liaisons over clubs and parties, but it&#8217;s still good practice to follow the above to an extent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1 &#8211; DO Establish Boundaries &amp; Rules<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-8f761849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:67%\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">We assume you and your partner have discussed this and are eager to get started. But if you still need that conversation, stop reading and talk! <strong>There&#8217;s no room for misunderstandings when jealousy could permanently damage your relationship.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Are you a sex party or sex club couple? Maybe a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.cruisecritic.co.uk\/articles\/sex-and-swingers-cruises-what-you-need-to-know?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">swingers cruise<\/a> is more your scene? You both need to be on the same page and establish any <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/blog\/lifestyle\/relationship-advice\/hard-soft-limits-yes-no-maybe\/\">limits<\/a>. For example, if you&#8217;re having sex with the same person, but one of you isn&#8217;t enjoying it, do you both dip out or is the other allowed to continue?<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:33%\"><div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/kama-sutra-pocket-book?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bondara.co.uk\/media\/products\/6b02f716-0981-4563-8f4f-7f6468ac4fac\/241a8944-a054-443b-a625-6f1c311cc9ca\/c\/cn01-large.jpg?w=800&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Bondara Sex Toys Blog - 5 Dos and Don'ts For Swinging Newbies - \nKama Sutra Pocket Book\n\"\/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/sex-aids-lubes-fun\/sex-aids-for-couples?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Sex Aids for Couples<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2 &#8211; DON&#8217;T Leave Your Toys At Home<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-8f761849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:67%\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hosts will usually make <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/sex-toys?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">sex toys<\/a> available, but it&#8217;s considered good practice to bring your own. <strong>There&#8217;s no guarantee there will be enough to go around! <\/strong>Plus, you might feel more comfortable using your own toy; for example, if you&#8217;re particular about knowing a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/sex-toys\/dildos?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">dildo<\/a> hasn&#8217;t been inside an anus before you use it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Likewise, most venues will have <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/sex-aids-lubes-fun\/lubricants?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">lube<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/sex-aids-lubes-fun\/condoms?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">condoms<\/a> on standby, but it&#8217;s never a bad thing to bring your own &#8211; especially if you have any allergies or require larger\/smaller than average sizes.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:33%\"><div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/bondara-blue-lagoon-cocktail-dildo-9-inch\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bondara.co.uk\/media\/products\/22cf1c07-b1d7-4e6f-812e-b6ee09ba5dac\/fdded749-36e4-4aba-8487-6e417ea19e80\/c\/cx02-large.jpg?w=800&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Bondara Sex Toys Blog - 5 Dos and Don'ts For Swinging Newbies - \nBondara Blue Lagoon Cocktail Dildo - 9 Inch\n\"\/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/sex-toys\/dildos\/realistic-dildos?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Realistic Dildos<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3 &#8211; DO Connect With Couples<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-8f761849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:67%\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It&#8217;s like dating: hop on an app like <a href=\"https:\/\/app.quiver.us\/?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Quiver<\/a> and put yourself out there! <strong>Swinger sites like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.kasidie.com\/?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Kasidie<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/swapfinder.com\/?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Swapfinder.com<\/a> are fun places to explore local options<\/strong>. Newbies are always welcome, but remember, <strong>you don&#8217;t have to say yes<\/strong>. Not everyone is going to float your boat, but keep things friendly &#8211; you never know who you might meet at a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com\/intro-to-swinging-and-polyamory?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">munch<\/a>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If the thought of shagging in the middle of a party makes you drier than rough sauv blanc, <strong>inviting a couple back to yours or a discreet hotel is an exciting entry point to swinging<\/strong>. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/sex-aids-lubes-fun\/adult-gifts-games\/sex-games-coupons?page=2&amp;utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Sexy games<\/a> like <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/path-to-pleasure-couples-game?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Path to Pleasure<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/lets-fck-xxx-board-game?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Let&#8217;s F*ck!<\/a> are a frisky way to break the ice.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:33%\"><div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/fondle-board-game?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bondara.co.uk\/media\/products\/32d8f014-f26b-4fe3-8f8d-756a6074eadf\/47ed0205-ff55-4ceb-9d27-442dd743c7a2\/c\/fh58-large.jpg?w=800&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Bondara Sex Toys Blog - 5 Dos and Don'ts For Swinging Newbies - \nFondle Board Game\n\"\/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/sex-aids-lubes-fun\/adult-gifts-games\/sex-games-coupons?page=2&amp;utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Sex Games &amp; Coupons<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4 &#8211; DON&#8217;T Come Dressed in Fetish Wear<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-8f761849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:67%\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">You might think a swinger&#8217;s party would be the place for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/bondage-gear-fetish-wear\/blindfolds-hoods-masks\/gimp-masks?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">gimp masks<\/a> and latex, but that couldn&#8217;t be further from the truth. On a typical night, most people wear regular clothes and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/lingerie-underwear\/lingerie-for-women?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">sexy lingerie<\/a>. <strong>Pick an outfit you&#8217;d feel comfortable wearing to a nightclub or bar, and that&#8217;s easy to slip off.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It&#8217;s best to leave your <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/bondage-gear-fetish-wear\/fetish-clothing?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">fetish clothing<\/a> for themed parties or BDSM devoted groups. <strong>Opt instead for <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/bondage-gear-fetish-wear\/fetish-clothing\/fetish-accessories?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">fetish accessories<\/a> that can subtly communicate your kink friendliness<\/strong>, like a <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/bondara-naughty-kitty-faux-leather-cat-oring-collar?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">collar<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/bondara-black-bondage-harness-knicker?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">harness knicker<\/a>.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:33%\"><div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/bondara-flirt-red-and-black-cut-out-bra-garter-and-thong?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bondara.co.uk\/media\/products\/9cae1d0e-114a-4146-acfc-77d3246d4433\/788a3411-f78c-4e9d-bdec-ac540ddd4c34\/c\/ci62-large.jpg?w=800&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Bondara Sex Toys Blog - 5 Dos and Don'ts For Swinging Newbies - \nBondara Flirt Red and Black Cut-Out Bra, Suspender Belt &amp; Thong\"\/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/lingerie-underwear\/lingerie-for-women\/sexy-bra-sets?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Sexy Bra Sets<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. DO Practice Enthusiastic Consent<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-columns is-layout-flex wp-container-core-columns-is-layout-8f761849 wp-block-columns-is-layout-flex\">\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:67%\">\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Two common misassumptions amongst newbies are: a) that anything goes, especially at a sex club, and b) you <em>have <\/em>to have sex with everyone. <strong>Plenty of people go to watch; you don&#8217;t have to hook up<\/strong>. That said, if you have any fantasies you want to try &#8211; e.g. if you&#8217;re male in an M4F relationship but are curious about other men &#8211; swinging is a great way to explore.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Unlike <a href=\"https:\/\/www.kinkly.com\/definition\/dogging\/?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">dogging<\/a>, swinging doesn&#8217;t automatically mean &#8216;<a href=\"https:\/\/daizydennis.substack.com\/p\/what-is-freeuse-and-can-it-be-consensual?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Free Use<\/a>&#8216; for touching. So, ask before touching and don&#8217;t join in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/blog\/spotlight\/threesomes-group-play-poly-oh-my\/\">group play<\/a> without permission. <strong>Some clubs even have an &#8220;ask once, and only once&#8221; policy<\/strong> that if you ignore, you could get thrown out or banned. It might feel like a parody of asking something to dance, but the more you do it, the more comfortable you&#8217;ll feel.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-column is-layout-flow wp-block-column-is-layout-flow\" style=\"flex-basis:33%\"><div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-large\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/bondara-twist-n-shout-7-function-remote-control-rotating-love-egg?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.bondara.co.uk\/media\/products\/0d5d1095-2568-4616-ba39-02da44997ccd\/d9fa8709-9bcd-41e2-946f-fbd51f6452a4\/c\/cr54-large.jpg?w=800&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"Bondara Sex Toys Blog - 5 Dos and Don'ts For Swinging Newbies - \nBondara Twist N Shout 7 Function Remote Control Rotating Love Egg\"\/><\/a><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/sex-toys\/sex-toys-for-couples?utm_source=blog&amp;utm_medium=article&amp;utm_campaign=5_Tips_For_Swinging_Newbies\">Sex Toys for Couples<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">EXTRA &#8211; Have Fun!<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Swinging can be nerve-wracking at first, no matter how you practice it. It&#8217;s like dating again, and that was bad enough! But remember, it&#8217;s exciting, too, and <strong>you&#8217;re amongst others who share your sexual energy<\/strong>. There&#8217;s no judgement amongst the &#8216;Lifestyle&#8217; as long as you don&#8217;t act like a knob. Be gracious and respectful, and remember you control the experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity is-style-dots\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">So, do you have any swinging plans for the weekend? 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