{"id":13336,"date":"2020-04-17T18:41:45","date_gmt":"2020-04-17T17:41:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/blog\/?p=13336"},"modified":"2022-02-01T15:17:17","modified_gmt":"2022-02-01T15:17:17","slug":"pegging-passion-the-role-reversal-fantasy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.bondara.co.uk\/blog\/fetish-friday\/pegging-passion-the-role-reversal-fantasy\/","title":{"rendered":"Pegging Passion: The Role Reversal Fantasy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Whether it’s Scissoring<\/em>, Cupping<\/em>, or Pegging<\/em> \u2013 Funny homeware epithets give a name to a few pleasurable pursuits that are anything but domestic<\/em>! In fact, these long-practised sexual acts are fast becoming household names in our fantasies and <\/em>our bedrooms. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sure, your pegging fantasies may seem ‘unorthodox’ at first, but after a little courage, you’ll find yourself eager to ease into them for that very reason<\/em>. After all, taboo <\/em>is at the heart of kink!<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Flipping the script on restrictive ideas about sex can only <\/strong>be a good thing. And here at Bondara<\/a>, we aim to empower every customer in the pursuit of their authentic sexual self!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Turning the Tables<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Dominatrix<\/em>, Mistress<\/em>, Madame<\/em>\u2026 These are labels that refer to a chapter of the BDSM scene<\/strong> called Female Dominance<\/strong> (Femdom<\/strong>), in which the female is the ‘dominant’ partner. Femdoms take pleasure in the BDS (Bondage Discipline Sadism) and leave the M (Masochism) to their male counterparts. A female dominant may engage in a long list of psychological and physical inflictions upon their willing male submissive. Who simultaneously craves erotic gratification from their own pain and humiliation. These debasing acts often include domestic servitude<\/strong>, bondage<\/strong>, ballbusting<\/strong>, face sitting<\/strong>, forced feminisation<\/strong>, foot worship<\/strong>, forced chastity<\/strong>, forced orgasm<\/strong> play<\/strong>, and pegging<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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I Put My Thang Down, Flip It and Reverse It!<\/em><\/h4>\n\n\n\n

It would be fair to link the Femdom kink <\/strong>to the ‘battle of the sexes<\/em>‘. With traditional depictions of Masculinity as authoritative <\/em>and conquesting<\/em> and Feminity idealised as docile <\/em>and soft<\/em>. That’s not to say that female subs can’t be feminist. Hell, the author identifies as such but there’s nothing stopping them occasionally relinquishing control in the bedroom! It’s all role-playing at the end of the day. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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On the flip side, Feminine Domination indulges in a psychologically-charged play to derive pleasure from subverting old-timey notions of gender<\/em>. Seeing your dominant lover from a vulnerable POV can be an invigorating experience. Smashing norms and creating new rules is the main event when it comes to kink. And Role Reversa<\/strong>l play is no exception.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What a thrill it is the seize control and become the “giver” of pleasure! To take a small holiday from your everyday responsibilities and indulge in pent-up fantasies of domination and worship. To become your very own Daddy<\/em>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Dress Up and ‘Fess Up!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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And so, your bedroom becomes the launchpad for these eye-watering ideas. You start to fill your wardrobe with the aesthetic hardware of your kinky clan. A playbox stuffed with whips, chains, ropes, and cuffs signifies a dipped toe into the vastness of the BDSM universe. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But before this make-believe is turned real, you may wonder whether your partner would ever submit to such dirty <\/em>desires. But there is only one way to find out! Communication (and consent) is the bedrock of BDSM (and sex in general). So, let him try your ideas on for size – You might be surprised by the response you get…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It Works Both Ways<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Sure, there are anxieties that straight men might have about being the “receiver” of some good dick. But, just as it might be a woman’s fetish to jump into the driving seat, it’s just as likely for a man to eagerly hand over the keys. After all, a strong sexual relationship is based on a trifecta of fundamentals. Give and take<\/em>, good communication, and a healthy degree of erotic curiosity. Do they imagine an intimate, romantic pegging session, or do they want to be dominated and humiliated? There’s a lot to talk about and the conversation tends to have a lubricating effect for both parties.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Now you’ve popped the scary question, you may be surprised to find that he’s flattered to feel so desired! A proactive approach might be the esteem booster that he never realised he needed. Perhaps he never imagined that your already <\/em>great sex could become any hotter, and with such a kinky twist! Deep down, your man loves to be lavished with attention; to lay back and let you demonstrate how much you crave him. Relinquish all control. Subvert the expectation of being the “giver”.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, let Bondara give you a stiff poke <\/em>in the alternative direction of some sweet, sweet strap-on action<\/em>. You never know, your lover may reward you for your bravery!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Pegging: A Beginner’s Guide<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

What you’ll need:<\/h4>\n\n\n\n