Sensation Play can come in many forms; from Waternburg wheels with their scratchy spikes and the delicate touch of a feather tickler to the clinical efficiency of medical play equipment. However, today’s subject is Wax Play.
Explore the pleasurably painful practice as we walk you through the basics. We’re going to give you all the tips and tricks for enjoying the delicious drips of this stinging sensation play! (Images courtesy of Secrets_)
Now, whether you’ve done it by accident or on purpose, you’ve almost certainly dipped your finger in the hot wax of a cooling candle. We don’t blame you for being curious! It has a certain allure; it cools quickly and has a fantastic smooth, luxurious consistency that coats your skin.
So, while many of you may have experienced this, why not try it on purpose? 😉
Skin-Friendly & Fabulous!
Unlike run-of-the-mill tea lights, bondage candles are made with environmentally and skin-friendly soya wax and botanical oils. The burning temperature is slightly lower, too, making them safer to use on your skin.
The very first thing you should do is an allergy test. While you might be excited to try out all your new wax play goodies as soon as you get them, you won’t want to deal with an allergic reaction. Not the kind of pain play we’re going for! If you’re both new to bondage candles, we also suggest that you both try the candles and experience the drips, so both parties know what it feels like. (FYI this goes for all BDSM practices)
Once you’ve got the go-ahead, start slowly, experimenting with distance till you find what suits you. We recommend you start about 30cm away from your lover’s body and stick to wide flat areas of the body till you’re both more acquainted with the practice. Make sure you don’t get too close. The closer you get to your partner’s skin, the less time the drops have to cool before they hit your chosen target. You’re not trying to give your partner burns. Follow the basic rule: The closer the candle, the hotter the drips.
While it’s up to you and your partner where you want to leave a trail of wicked wax drips, we suggest you stick to areas like the buttocks, back and chest. Not only do these areas give you a wider canvas to paint your sub like a pretty picture, but they’re easier to clean and, importantly, shave. Unless picking dried wax out of your chest hair is something you’re into… No judgement here!
Wax Play at Bondara
Ways to Work Wax into Your Play Sessions
Now you know the basics… Let’s get into some of the more interesting ways you can implement these kinky candles in your bedroom fun. Take a look at our list to see what tickles your fancy:
- Warm up your partner’s skin by giving them a massage – Get yourself a dedicated massage oil (Baby Oil is flammable, people. Let’s not need to call an ambulance) and work out the knots of stress in your lover’s back. Once they’re nice and relaxed, the blood will have come to the surface of their skin, making all those drips of wax feel so much more intense.
- Remove the wax with a cooled implement – Cleaning up can be just as sexy as carrying out this warming technique. Add another element of Temperature Play and pop a spoon or blunt butter knife in a glass of ice water while you decorate your playmate. Once the wax has cooled, scrap it off with the cold cutlery to send a shiver down their spine.
- Keep your canvas tied down – Using wax play in tandem with other BDSM practices is perfect for those that want to use it for teasing torture instead of relaxation. Lock them into a pair of handcuffs, a spreader bar or even tie them in knots with rope bondage and make sure your submissive stay exactly where you want while you take your sweet time creating a masterpiece.
Make sure you engage in aftercare once you’ve both had fun. This can take many forms, and you may already have an aftercare routine. But, if you don’t, ensure there’s no wax left on your partner’s skin, and they’re in a good frame of mind at the very least. Talk through what you liked and didn’t like about the scene and what you’d want to do again. This will only improve your sex life, so don’t be afraid, to be honest if something isn’t for you. Not everyone like pain!
We hope you’ve learned a lot… about Wax Play and yourself! Now you’re ready to take a brand new BDSM technique into the bedroom.
