Contrary to what people may say about bondage, there are millions of people embracing the wonderful world of BDSM. It’s crept in to many parts of pop culture thanks to the likes of Rihanna, American Pie and Fifty Shades of Grey. So what is it really and why are so many people doing it? Our blog on bondage for beginners tells you everything you need to know.
What is Bondage?
Bondage is the practice of achieving sexual gratification from being restrained. It requires a dominant figure and a submissive but these roles can change as often as you like.
Although it does represent the ‘B’ in BDSM, rest assured that it doesn’t involve any form of sadomasochism! As a result, you can experience all the gain and zero pain with bondage.
Bondage can be relatively simple, letting you improvise with household items such as bed frames and chairs. Bondage can also be used for purposes other than foreplay, including sexual teasing and erotic tickling.
Who Should I Do It With?
This isn’t something you’ll want to delve into with a stranger. We’re not ruling it out; it’s just highly unlikely that the words “followed by an invitation to be tied to the bed probably won’t elicit a positive response.
Bondage is most often done with someone you know and trust, most likely a partner. There needs to be a mutual confidence about moving forward with bondage, so make sure you’re on the same page and enjoy the ride.
Where Should I Be Doing It?
There is no limit on location but this all depends on the type of bondage you’re going for.
Bedroom bondage is usually milder, with one partner volunteering to be tied up.
If you’re just starting out, the more beginner-friendly acts can be kept to the bedroom for extra comfort. You can use the bedframe, the desk, the doorframe – whatever tickles your fancy.
If you’re looking for something a little more advanced, there are plenty of clubs for people with an interest in bondage. Due to the high demand, there are hundreds of forums online that give you all the information you need.
What Should I Use?
There are thousands of different products for the bondage community – some simple ropes and chains, some gravity-defying extravaganzas, and others that look downright painful! There’s a huge range in the bondage world, and for newcomers, there are specially selected items dedicated to giving you the perfect first experience.
Starter Kits – Absolutely faultless if you’re interested in exploring the exciting world of bondage. These kits contain everything you need to begin, from blindfolds to soft restraints. These can also include items such as ticklers and paddles for you to experiment with.
Blindfolds – Remove sight from the equation and heighten your partner’s other senses with a beautiful blindfold. This is a fantastic way to stimulate your partner’s body while one of their senses is restricted. Inflict pleasure upon their body with your hands, or use things like feathers, ice and even a spanking crop. Let your imagination flow!
Restraints – Enjoy the thrill of restricted movement with bondage restraints. Ranging from handcuffs and collars to rope and tape, use these to tie your partner to the bed or restrain their hands above their head. This is the perfect way to discover your limits in the bedroom. Try not to take this so seriously and engage in a little role play to determine who better suits the dominant and submissive roles.
And For a Little Spanking…
Floggers and ticklers – Reward your partner with little treats that will tickle and tease them as they lie restrained on the bed. Run a down their body and across of those ‘OH-MY’ zones, perfect for when they’re blindfolded! Best used on the erogenous zones to stimulate arousal, the ticklers come in a range of styles and sizes.
You can also deliver a swift, sexy slap to your partner and unleash the kink. The ideal tool for this is a spanking crop. Since it’s small and light to the touch, it’ll have your partner begging for more.
There is a thin line between pain and pleasure. As you learn different techniques, you’ll start to understand what it is that gets your partner going. Deliver gentle spanks with either a crop or a flogger. It will increase the blood flow to the area, making everything more sensitive.
Just Remember…
Bondage is all about exploration not humiliation. For both parties to enjoy it, you have to understand each other’s choices fully and respect the boundaries.
The plus side? Mutual understanding and lots of trust are very sexy, so they’ll make the experience so much more intense.
