Threesomes – sharing the love or three’s a crowd? 1-in-5 relationships have invited another person into the bedroom, and even the Romans were fantasising about threesomes.
So, if a ménage à trois is on your menu, read on for some bisexual-approved toy recommendations and make sure everyone gets a helping of pleasure…
You’re not alone if you’ve ever wondered about sex with more than one person. It’s not just a male fantasy, either!
Now, we can’t help you find that extra person or group, but we can give you some top toy tips to help make encounters as pleasurable as possible.
For Her
It’s tempting to crack out a vibrator, but don’t reach for the tried and trusty rabbit just yet!
A clitoral vibrator delivers direct stimulation to clits and nips, but its ability to tease and titillate is where these fun-sized toys shine. Nestled in the palm of your hand and trailed all over the body, the Dirty Digits is adaptable when it comes to pleasing multiple partners, ensuring satisfaction is fairly shared without wearing out your wrist.
Plus, worn as a panty vibe, you can arouse yourself during a date or on the way to a swingers’ party, all before anyone takes off their clothes!
For Him
Concerns about stamina are common, even with a single partner. So, you can imagine how pleasing two or more partners may be intimidating.
Cock rings are a low-tech, low-cost solution. These stretchy rings of silicone keep blood in your erection, making it fuller, more sensitive, and last for longer.
After a little practice, with a set like the Sex Marathon, you can wear more than one for increased effect – just don’t overdo it, and don’t wear them for longer than 20-30 minutes.
Polyamor-what?
Have you heard of Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)? ENM is an umbrella term for relationships, serious and casual, with more than two people involved. It’s not the same as cheating, as it requires consent from everyone involved!
Someone who is polyamorous (i.e. desires romantic relationships, not just sex, with more than one partner) may have an ethically non-monogamous relationship.
It’s all about the three C’s: communication, consideration, and consent!
For Them
Much like polycules, there’s massive variation when it comes to strap-ons. If you’re passionate about penetration, they’re definitely the sex accessory to keep as an option. Plus, if you own a dildo with a suction base, it will probably fit a harness with the right O-ring.
Little, large, vibrating ones, hollow ones which can support a soft penis; insertable strapless double strap-ons so the giver/top is penetrated at the same time; double penetration ones that can penetrate two holes or two people (with practice) at once – the limit is your imagination!
For Us
Speaking of versatility, don’t forget there are specifically designed sex toys for couples. Yes, all toys can be used by couples, but these toys have been made with multiple uses in mind.
Take the Double Joy, for example, with it’s powerful vibrations and three motors! On one end, there is a stimulation ring studded with texture for targeted nip, clit, and dick sensations. While the other end is perfect for penetration, both vaginally and anally, with a curved design to excite the prostate or G-spot. We counted at least 16 different ways to use it. Can you think of more?
Threesomes A Plenty
Amongst swingers and other couples seeking a third, there stalks a mythical creature… the unicorn! Unicorn, in this context, means a single bisexual person, often female. They’re described as such due to the rarity of finding them.
You don’t have to put ads in the classifieds anymore; apps like 3Somer and Feeld allow open-minded couples to connect with curious singles.
But if you can’t find a third, you could always replicate yourself or your lover with a clone kit!
So, have you had your curiosity piqued? There’s a world of pleasurable possibilities out there, as long as you’ve got enough bed space.
Don’t forget, if you’re hooking up with someone new, take precautions to protect yourself and your partner. If you need a refresher on the basics, check out our post where we answer six common safe sex questions.
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