Erotic Asphyxiation and Choking

If you’re the type of person who really likes to be dominated and isn’t afraid of a little edge play, then erotic asphyxiation may be right up your street.

Erotic asphyxiation is an erotic act performed with a partner and is essentially choking or strangling. This differs greatly from auto-erotic asphyxiation which is breath-play done alone to enhance masturbation. Googling auto-erotic asphyxiation will undoubtedly horrify you with stories of accidental suicide, so find a willing friend to strangle you instead.

Erotic asphyxiation is the much safer option as you’re with a partner. If you black out, turn purple or start frantically gasping for air, they can let go!

When you choke someone, you’re able to completely dominate them. You’re holding them down or against a wall, and are controlling their ability to breathe and speak. If you enjoy being submissive, there can be a massive thrill from the sensation of something around your neck.

But there is more to erotic asphyxiation than the psychological element of a D/s relationship. When done properly, choking restricts the flow of oxygen to the brain. This causes a feeling of light-headedness and ecstasy. At this point, you have about 3-5 seconds before they pass out.

When blood flow to the brain is restricted, it can produce a highly pleasurable feeling – much like a person may experience when on drugs. Combine that with an orgasm and the feeling will be truly immense.

Before you attempt any sort of choking, it’s important to have a conversation with your partner. Talk about exactly how you’re going to do this and make sure you’re both happy with the idea. It’s also crucial to determine a safe signal. A safe word won’t work in this scenario, so agree a way to communicate when it’s time to stop.

Tips for the Strangler

• Don’t restrict the wind pipe. Doing that will make them choke and not really cause any sort of head rush. What you’re looking to restrict is the common carotid artery. With your hands around the neck, gently put pressure either side of the windpipe.
• If they look genuinely distressed, are turning blue or are struggling to breathe, stop. Should they want to continue after you’ve removed your hands, they can say so.
• If you’re just doing this for their benefit and it’s not your thing at all, try a bit of method acting.

Tips for the Stranglee

• Always make sure you’ve got a way of signalling that you’d like to stop. As your ability to speak will be restricted, you will need a physical signal. This could be tapping him on the shoulder, but bear in mind any restraints potentially involved.
• Let yourself enjoy it. If you’re worrying too much about giving up control or, well… dying, then you’re never going to cum.
• Be prepared for marks around your neck. You don’t want the neighbours asking questions, so have some make-up or a roll neck jumper to hand!

If you think you’d like to try this manner of edge play, do it with someone you trust and I hope it rocks your world.