Beginners Guide to Sex Toys

Thinking about spicing up your love life but not sure where to start or what to get? Read our Beginners Guide to Sex Toys.

Sex toys can be an exciting way to spice up your sex life, whether you will be using them by yourself or with a partner. There are many misconceptions that sex toys are only used by people who want to remain abstinent, do not currently have sexual partners, or by gay men and lesbian women. The truth is all types of people use sex toys. Some choose to use them when they are alone, or with their sexual partners, or on themselves with their partner present. Whatever you choose, it’s important to understand the best ways to clean your sex toys and how to protect yourself against STIs especially if you choose to share sex toys with others. Our very popular Bondara® Toy cleaner has a unique solution which is designed to keep all your sex toys squeaky clean and free of any unwanted bacteria.

Sex toys can range from objects that tickle and vibrate, to various products that are inserted into the vagina or anus. Some sex toys are meant to be used for fun and used more gently, while others are used for sexual acts involving dominance and submission (BDSM) such as restraints, blindfolds, and whips. A few examples of sex toys are rabbit vibrators, dildos, bullet vibrators, butt plugs, cock rings and anal beads.

Sometimes it’s hard to communicate our sexual desires to our partners, especially when wanting to bring something new, like sex toys into a relationship. Some partners may feel threatened by the thought of having sex toys added to their sex life or they have stereotypes about what kind of people use sex toys. Honesty and open communication are the best strategies for talking with sexual partners about bringing sex toys into your lives. Your partner needs to understand where you’re coming from, what you’re interested in doing and what sex toys you’re interested in experimenting with, and how you will respect their boundaries, in order for sex toys to be a healthy and pleasurable part of your relationship. What’s the best way to use sex toys? No matter what sex toy you choose to use or how you choose to use it, there are a few things to keep in mind to make your experience pleasurable and to help protect yourselves from STIs and other infections.

• Before using your sex toy check for any imperfections, including rough seams, tears, or cracks.
• Using lubrication is a great way to help enhance the pleasure and safety of sex toys. Although you will need to check what lubricants are best to use with each sex toy. For example, silicone lubricants can break down silicone sex toys after a while. Flavoured lubricants may cause yeast infections for some women as the sugar can disrupt the balance of pH in the vagina. Oil-based lubes will break down latex condoms
• If sharing your sex toys, such as dildos, butt plugs, or vibrators, make sure you use condoms to help prevent the spread of STIs. If switching the toy to another person, make sure to use a different condom. Remember, water and soap alone is not effective for removing STI bacteria or viruses from the sex toys.
• Don’t insert a sex toy in the mouth or vagina if it has been used in the anus without a condom or without being washed properly. This could spread bacteria and viruses and cause infections in the urinary tract (for females) or intestines. If a condom was used with the sex toy, replace the condom with a new one before inserting the toy in the mouth or vagina.
• If it hurts, stop! If you’re using toys with a sexual partner, earn trust with one another. If you want to try again, relax and add extra lubricant if needed. Remember using sex toys should be fun for both of you.

How do you choose a Sex Toy which is right for you?

Sex toys come in thousands of different sizes, shapes and functions -- you could have a different sex toy for every day of the week if you want! But to narrow the search field, think about your needs and preferences, and consider the following main questions:

• What shapes appeal to me?
• What colour would I like my sex toy to be?
• What material do I fancy most? Silicone, jelly, rubber, plastic or loveskin (soft-touch)?
• Should I start with a classic sex toy or maybe something new and wild?
• Do I fancy clitoral or vaginal stimulation? Or both even?
• Do I want a toy for myself or would I like to share it with a partner?
• Do I want to be able to use my sex toy anally too?

There's no right answer to any of these questions -- whatever floats your boat!

Whichever toy you decide to try, let your desires be your guide. Don't let other people's inhibitions bring you down. There is absolutely nothing wrong with buying, owning and using sex toys! Whether you use your toys alone or with a partner, you are enhancing your life and pumping up your sex drive. Furthermore, you're keeping an open mind and trying something new, which is the key to life-long learning. So relax and enjoy yourself. Who knows? Perhaps some day you'll have a whole treasure trove of titillating toys to tickle your fancy!

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