If you’ve not read the books- and let’s face it, there aren’t many of us that haven’t these days- then you may have been to see the new 50 Shades of Grey movie and be looking to introduce a bit of bondage into your sex life. Bondage and BDSM needn’t be a scary prospect; you can start as slowly and as softly as you like as these terms cover everything from the heavy duty fetish stuff you might be imagining to a simple pair of furry handcuffs. In fact, half the fun of bondage play is starting slowly with perhaps a feather tickler or a blindfold and working your way through the huge range of accessories and toys available until you find the perfect combination for you and your partner. So, if you’re a beginner and you want advice on where to start your bondage journey, this handy guide will outline the main product areas associated with the BDSM world and what to expect.

  • Restraints

    One of the main parts of bondage play is restraining your partner and having your wicked way with them, or swapping over and letting them explore your body at their leisure. Start off simply with a pair of padded handcuffs or even self adhesive bondage tape to gently restrain each other while you get used to the sensations of relinquishing control and heightened pleasure with a trusted partner. Go slow, it might feel odd to be tied up at first but make sure you tell your partner what you like and what you don’t like and you’ll be thinking up imaginative scenarios in no time!

  • Blindfolds

    Blindfolds are a fantastic way to temporarily remove your field of vision and allow your other senses to be heightened. Every touch, every lick, every taste of your partner will be magnified by not being able to see. Perfect for beginners, experience the thrill of giving control to your partner with this incredibly simple toy. 

  • Gags

    Hold back your screams of pleasure with a gag and enjoy the feeling of being restrained without having to be physically tied down. Don’t forget to agree some non-verbal signals with your partner so you can enjoy sex the way you like it, or ask them to stop/change position whilst being gagged. 

  • Spankers

    For a lot of us, spanking and whipping is the first thing that comes to mind when you talk about becoming a bit kinkier in the bedroom. It needn’t be a scary or painful prospect though; we have hundreds of floggers, whips, spankers, paddles and canes that will leave everything to a rosy glow on your skin to a raised welt that brands you as submissive! If you’re new to spankers, you’re best starting off with a flat paddle or soft tailed flogger for gentle whipping- don’t forget you can inflict (or receive) as much pain or pleasure as you desire, there are no rules! 

  • Lingerie

    Often overlooked, lingerie can play a huge part in enhancing your Bondage and BDSM play. What you dress up in can powerfully affect your confidence in the bedroom and is perfect for setting the mood. When your partner sees you all dressed up in leather and lace there will be no confusion over what the night is going to bring. If you’re a beginner then a skin tight chemise or bodystocking might be the right place to start, and if you want to take it up a notch then a lace up corset might be more your style. In the fetish world it is not unheard of to slip on a full body rubber suit or maybe something leather and constricting to keep you in the bondage mood. Dressing for the part will give you an extra boost of confidence and have your fetish play feeling that much more pleasurable. 

  • BDSM Accessories

    If you are keen to start off slowly into the world of Bondage and BDSM play then have no fear! There are so many kinky toys and accessories that are perfect for adding a touch of something new to your sex life that don’t require any theatrics beyond your comfort zone. Try lighting a bondage candle and slowly dripping the warm and thick wax over your partner’s body. Better yet, try some toys! Ben Wa balls can be slipped inside you at any time and as you move, the balls will stimulate your inner nerve endings, building your sexual pleasure for the night ahead. Accessories can span from feather ticklers, bondage tape, massage candles, nipple clamps, pinwheels and scratchers for sensation play, and so much more. Ideal for starting off slow and even better for getting even kinkier!