It’s become the paragon of female pleasure; but how do you find your g-spot and how should you stimulate the darn thing to a squirting orgasm? Unlike the boys, although us girls are built in a similar way it’s very rare that our g-spots reside in exactly the same place as each other. That’s if we have one at all. There’s still a school of thought that some women just don’t have a g-spot but personally I’d just tell them to look harder. For longer. In a range of positions. With help. For now though, let’s pretend that every woman has a g-spot and it’s in the same sort of place as most other women. So, how do we go about finding it and what should we do with it once we’ve discovered our illusive g-spots?
Technically the g-spot is located around 2 or 3 inches inside the vagina on the front wall and feels slightly different to the rest of you as it’s raised or bumpy in texture. The best way to hunt for it is to get your partner to insert a couple of fingers inside you (with their palm facing up) and make a ‘come hither’ beckoning motion. As their fingers curl they should be able to feel this raised bumpy area inside you; don’t forget it may be slightly higher or lower than expected or even off to one side. Does it feel good? Do you feel a bit like you need to pee? Is your partner finding the area getting swollen? Congratulations, you’ve found your g-spot.
By massaging this area in a rhythmic motion you should start to notice that you feel the need to pee quite a lot. Don’t worry; as long as you’ve been to the toilet beforehand, you won’t. Sometimes the feeling will go away and lead to a mind blowing orgasm, or sometimes you’ll feel the need to push out with your pelvic floor and you’ll ejaculate. Yep, women really can do it. The important thing to remember is that none of us are the same. Some women love g-spot stimulation, come really easily from it and soak the sheets. Some don’t. As long as you’re enjoying what’s happening then you shouldn’t feel any pressure to achieve a porn-style orgasm that floods the bed, your partner and makes the neighbours move out.
Having said that, g-spot stimulation is brilliant when done in the right way for you so you certainly shouldn’t give up looking for it; or worse, just not bothering. There are literally a million toys (perhaps a slight exaggeration but there are lots) out there designed to pin point your g-spot meaning that even if you don’t have a kind soul to lend a helping hand in your search, you can do some solo exploration. Lelo’s Gigi is specially designed to deliver strong vibrations directly to the area where your g-spot is lurking, helping you to not only find it once and for all but find out what stimulation you like the best. It’s rechargeable too so even if you spend hours and hours getting to know your g-spot you’ll never have to nick the batteries out of the tv remote. If you want to try something hands-free, then the Extreme Dream Massager and Stimulator rubs all the right places (clit, g-spot and vaginal stimulation all at the same time) and has even been voted by some as better than the classic rabbit. The whole thing is made of soft and flexible silicone so it will move and flex as you do for the perfect stimulation every time.