For the uninitiated, the term bondage may bring to mind thoughts of being tied up in a dungeon with a leather clad dominatrix wielding a whip– not something everyone would find appealing! However, in truth, bondage covers a very wide spectrum of emotional, sensual and imaginative possibilities and is the perfect way to inject more passion in to your sexual relationship.
So what does it involve? Bondage is the art of tying, binding, or restraining a person using ropes, cuffs, bondage tape or other restraints for the sexual, aesthetic or psychological pleasure of the parties involved.
The main feature of sexual bondage is that the restrained person surrenders control and is unable to interfere with sexual activity. Often, it is used as part of a sex game or sexual fantasy and as a form of foreplay.
How can bondage make you a better lover?
Increase Sexual Intimacy with your Partner
To achieve sexual intimacy you need to let go and allow yourself to be vulnerable – there is no better way to do this than voluntarily surrendering control to your partner. If you are being restrained it demonstrates you trust your partner completely and if you are the restraining partner it demonstrates you are deserving of that trust – this can have a powerful effect on your relationship and deepen the emotional bonds between you.
Removes Guilty Feelings towards Sex
Some people experience guilty feelings towards having sex which stops them from letting go and enjoying themselves fully – allowing your partner to take control and do naughty things to you in a trusted environment helps overcome these feelings as you are powerless to resist!
Explore Your Sensual Side
Bondage allows you to show your partner your sensual side. You can use the ropes to gently caress your partner while tying and untying, or use the frayed end of ropes to stroke and tickle. If you want to up the ante and drive your partner wild with pleasure, simply tie knots in the ropes and use them to rub against your partner’s sweet spots…
Encourages Open Communication
The best lovers know how to express what they like and what they don’t and bondage is a great way for couples to practice this open communication. Pushing your pleasure to the limit or involving any form of pain requires you and your partner to be both honest and respectful to one another. Often couples will agree safe words beforehand so that the submissive partner can choose the intensity and when it stops.
Discover Yourself and Your Lover
Acting out different scenarios and taking on different roles- such as slave and master- can be highly erotic and will open up sides of your sexual personality you may otherwise not reveal. By playing a role, you and your partner will learn a lot about yourselves and each other – knowledge is power when it comes to being a great lover!
Diffuse Relationship Niggles
As much as we love our partners, we all have moments when they drive us crazy! Left unsaid, little relationship niggles can lead to resentment which is the ultimate ‘great sex killer.’ Bondage can be a great way of diffusing these issues, communicating positively and injecting some humour at the same time. Next time your partner does something to annoy you simply tell them ‘I’m going to get out my spanking paddle and deal with you later,’ not only will this diffuse the situation by preventing a full scale row, you can use it to start your ‘kiss and make up’ session later…
If you’re interested in giving bondage a try, check out our recommended products and get started!
Bargain Bondage Bundle
The perfect gift for an aspiring kinkster, our Bargain Bondage Bundle has a great range of starter bondage gear at an amazing price. Contains:
Play Whip and Feather Teaser: Will you be naughty or nice? Tickle and tease your partner with the fluffy purple feather end or show your dominance with the delicate whip end that slaps sharply against your skin.
Black Furry Handcuffs: Secure but comfortable handcuffs with a soft black faux fur trim.
Passionate Purple Bondage Tape: 20 metres of reusable self adhesive bondage tape that uses static electricity to stick to itself and your skin. Strong and versatile.
Soft Plush Blindfold Mask: A soft opaque black blindfold eye mask that’s perfect for sensory deprivation play. Features an elastic head strap and a unisex design.
Black Silk Japanese Bondage Love Rope 5m
Discover Japanese rope bondage (also known as Shibari) with this soft black silk style bondage rope. Boasting unsurpassed softness and strength this high quality friction free rope won’t fray or damage the skin. Available from Bondara in purple, black, red and blue.
Black suede fantasy flogger whip
These fabulous suede mini flogger whips are an ideal accessory for light and sexy bondage play. A 14 inch flogger whip featuring a leather loop for display, comfortable pvc handle and over 20 soft suede whipping tails.
This fantasy whip has met huge demand! They are perfect for sexy bondage role play. Blindfold your partner, restrain them with a pair of our wrist cuffs and provide them with a highly erotic whipping experience. This super mini flogger whip measures 14 inches in total length has a pvc handle for comfort and grip and features over 20 soft suede evenly flowing tails for delightful whipping. Perfect for beginners and erotic bondage play.
Leather Paddle Whip
A substantial high quality leather paddle whip featuring a retaining strap and chrome studded handle. Show your partner who is in charge with this great leather paddle whip. This leather paddle really whips up a storm. Show your partner who’s in charge with this 14″ luxury black leather paddle whip. A handcrafted paddle whip made from only the very best leather materials available and designed to deal with even the hardest to handle. Obey or else! One of our favourites.