The term ‘bondage’ may evoke images of a leather-clad Dominatrix wielding a whip for the uninitiated. Not something everyone would find appealing! Really, bondage covers a wide spectrum of emotional, sensual and imaginative possibilities. It’s also the perfect way to inject more passion into your sexual relationship and make you a better lover.
So, what does it involve? Bondage is the art of tying, binding or restraining a person using ropes, cuffs, bondage tape and more. It’s for the sexual, aesthetic or psychological pleasure of the parties involved.
The main feature of sexual bondage is that the restrained person surrenders control and cannot interfere with sexual activity. Often, it is used as part of a sex game or sexual fantasy. It is also thought to be the safest kind of sex you can have 😉
How Can Bondage Make You a Better Lover?
Let’s Talk Intimate Encounters
Communication is a No.1 must in any relationship, even outside of kink. If you’re looking to explore safe bondage, open communication is necessary, even just from a safety perspective! Pushing your pleasure to the limit requires you both to be honest and respectful – sit down and discuss any interests or apprehensions you may have on BOTH sides. Agree upon safewords beforehand, so it’s easy to check in with your partner once you have them twisted in knots.
A great beginner set of safewords is the traffic light system. Red means ‘No way! STOP’ then you should go straight into your discussed aftercare. Yellow means ‘Stop that specific thing but let’s not stop playing’ and Green means ‘yes yes yes‘.
Take Your Time with Each Other
Many people find sexual freedom by letting go and allowing themselves to be at the mercy of another. Of course, it’s not for everyone, but getting vulnerable and voluntarily surrendering your pleasure can be a rush! It takes a tremendous amount of trust in one another, so take baby steps if you’re unsure. Have a chat with your partner and see if they’d be up for a lil’ light bondage!
Getting started with bondage can be a bit intimidating. Start small with something like silk restraints. Indulge in sensuality and have unrestricted access to your partner’s sweet spots. Wrapped up in ribbons like a delicate present, it’ll be hard to resist such a sweet submissive. It’s rude to refuse a gift, you know!
Let the Good Times Roll
Some people have a hard time letting go, and others can feel guilty for having a good time. Whatever the reason for your negative vibes around sexy fun time, allowing your partner to take control is a great way to get out of your head!
Explore Something Sensual
Bondage allows you to explore the sensual as well! Use ropes to bind your partner to any number of surfaces or, if you want to up the ante and drive your partner wild with pleasure, tie knots in the ropes and use them to rub against your partner’s hot spots! Maybe pain and pleasure are one and the same for you? Gently caress your partner with a flogger or paddle and leave a stinging reminder of your time together.
Use a flogger for spankings to deliver a sensational stinging that your submissive won’t be able to get enough of. Don’t forget the aftercare! After you’ve inflicted the agreed-upon punishment, look after your playmate’s sensitive skin with some massage oil.
Raunchy Roleplay
Acting out different scenarios and taking on different roles – such as Dominant and Submissive – can reveal new sides to your sexual personality. By playing a role, you and your partner will learn a lot about yourselves and each other – knowledge is power when it comes to being a great lover!
We’ve got everything you need to get started with our Bondage Starter Kits! Slip into something sinful with beautiful body harnesses and leave yourself exposed to your partner!
Push Each Others Buttons
One of many types of Power Play, Bratting is one of the most well known. Deliberately acting out and misbehaving to push your Doms buttons is a great way to get a ‘Funishment‘! (Make sure you’ve agreed upon this dynamic otherwise, you’re just being annoying!)
‘Funishments’ can come in all shapes and sizes, but if you’re into bondage, getting tied down for a spanking or being restrained while your Dominant explores orgasm denial might leave you hot under the collar!
We hope this has left you inspired to explore something kinda kinky! Check out our stunning offers on Bondage items to stock up your toy box.
Robert Nix
June 8, 2021 at 8:50 amVery interesting, shows in detail why we both find bondage a rewarding, fun and satisfying activity.