No-one wants to feel like their relationship is in need of some TLC. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your partner – if anything, your determination to make things work proves you do! The beginning of a relationship is always exciting. However, once you’ve been together for a while, laziness ensues and it’s easy to fall into habits. Even though this is natural, it can easily make your relationship feel like one of routine rather than love. We hate the thought of you feeling this way, so we’ve racked our brains for how you can get your relationship back on track – with an added Bondara touch, of course.
Communication, Communication, Communication
It’s important to be honest about how you’re feeling but, if you approach it badly, you could end up in a worse position than when you started. These dos and don’ts will help you get your message across:
Don’t get irate. You’ll lose track of what you want to say and won’t achieve anything, so remain calm.
Don’t think you’re perfect. Chances are, they’ve also got their piece to say, so prepare for your ego to be bruised and listen.
Do make sure your timing’s right. You should both be calm and in the best frame of mind, so avoid shouting in their face as soon as they walk in from work.
Do keep things soft. We know this isn’t a phrase you’ll often hear us say, but (in this case at least) it’s important. Rather than accusing your partner by saying ‘you did this’, softer phrases such as ‘I feel like’ will encourage your partner to open up.
Do let it go. The last thing either of you want is to keep rehashing the same conversation, so learn to forgive them.
Give a Little Love
Hectic schedules often mean that time together is a rare and fleeting gift. As difficult as it may be, you both need to set aside some quality time. Aim for once for a week but more if you can afford it.
Wine, Dine and Feeling Fine
Don’t worry – you don’t need a fancy restaurant! To give your own home that special occasion vibe, hide away and distractions such as bills, paperwork and children’s toys (it’s hard to be romantic when you’re sitting on a piece of a Lego) before lighting some candles and dimming the lights.
Cook a meal you know they love, serve it to them and clear up afterwards.
The beauty of this gesture is that it turns an everyday task into a treat, showing you don’t need to do anything over-the-top to show your appreciation.
Go All Out
If you want to escape from reality, try going away for the weekend. Once you’re in your own little bubble, you can talk, laugh and appreciate some alone time. While city breaks are amazing, we recommend a secluded, getaway spot to get the most out of your time together.
Let’s Talk About Sex, Baby
Sex can work wonders at reigniting that all-important spark. Spice things up to keep things fresh and get excited for some mischief! Whether you’ve never used toys together before or looking to take things up a notch, we’ve got the piece for you.
Toy With Me
When it comes to foreplay, you know the drill: you touch them there, they touch you there. Sex toys force you to change what you’re doing and explore new types of stimulation. Perhaps you’d like to start things slow with a cock ring or a bullet vibrator? If you’ve already mastered these, up the ante with couple’s vibrators, prostate massagers and other anal toys (there’s a whole world of excitement waiting to be explored in there!).
I’m a Little Tied Up Right Now…
Bringing suspense, intensity and dare to the bedroom, bondage promises to get your pulse racing. If you’re new to restraints, have a look at our handcuffs and blindfolds. If you’re already in touch with your dominating side, have fun with spreader bars and whips.
More than just a fetish, bondage requires a huge amount of trust. As you’re relying upon your partner to carefully tread the line of pleasure and pain, it’ll encourage you to get closer emotionally and physically (while also being a hella lot of fun!).
Sex with a stranger is one of the most common fantasies out there, and if anything will help to revitalise the bedroom, it’s this. Costumes are the perfect way of getting into the mind-set of a different character – be that a naughty nurse, sexy waiter or something else altogether.
Don’t ever feel like you need a reason to treat your partner. It’s the little things that mean the most – in and out of the bedroom – and it’s these gestures that are sure to help you get your relationship back on track. Just call us your relationship guru – what would you do without us?