Being single isn’t actually a bad thing. Yes it can be lonely at times but honestly, it is probably the best thing you can do for yourself. Being single for a while is something I believe everyone should experience. I’m not going to lie, it terrified me a little. But ultimately it was the best thing that ever happened to me. You want to know why? I found myself, I figured out who I was as a singular person and not as a unit. I was able to do something, very few of us allow ourselves to do… I gave myself all I had to offer. I gave nothing to anyone else. For the first time in my life, I was completely selfish, and it felt great.
I believe, now more than ever, that you can’t be with someone, if you haven’t had the opportunity to work on yourself and really learn who you are alone. As hard as it is to be alone sometimes, it is so important for our souls. It gave me strength and happiness and I felt fulfilled for probably the first time since I was a child. This meant that when I was ready, I was able to give exactly what I wanted to a relationship, in the way I wanted, without sacrificing myself again. It’s healthy. Being alone is healthy. Get used to that word, Alone. Use it, and be proud of it. Whether you chose to be single or it just happens to be that way right now, why not make the most of the situation and be the best you. Help yourself for once. Be selfish. It feels brilliant, trust me.
Now, of course I’m not saying being alone means you can’t date, because that would be boring. If you feel like you want to, then do it. The best way, serial date. Why? Because you’re allowed to. No one can say you can’t date more than one person at a time. No one can say you can’t go on four dates a week. Do what makes you happy. That is the key. If you do date, then you best be dating to make yourself feel amazing. Why not have sex with multiple people? You’re allowed to! Have some fun!
When they compliment you, don’t bash it off like you normally would. Be overly confident, be proud of yourself. Remember, that this stage of your life it 100% about YOU. No one else.
Something we forget as humans is that we are just as important the other important people in our lives. Without looking after yourself first, you can’t hope to have a relationship that is truly happy.
So why not take some time for yourself, bask in the joys of yourself and date as many people as you want to, whenever you want to. Work on yourself the way you have wanted to for so long. Give yourself the time you have always promised yourself. Because at some point you’ll regret not choosing you, and then it’ll be too late.
Being single isn’t scary, it isn’t a bad thing. It’s what will give you a new found love for yourself, but only if you allow it to.
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So there we have it, go have some fun and love yourself every second of every day. You know you’ve earned it.