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Fetish Friday – A Beginner’s Guide to Bondage

Perhaps up until now my Fetish Friday blog has just been a bit of light reading, not something you’d actually consider outside of the ever bizarre internet? Well maybe it’s time that you indulge your fantasies and delve into the ever exciting world of bondage and BDSM.

It is something I often fantasise about – but where do I start?

Maybe surprising your partner with a bedroom full of chains, hooks and electric sex toys, with a silent gimp kneeling in the corner, is probably not the best way to start.

Generally when speaking to a mainstream audience about how to venture into bondage I’d say something like “try using a silk scarf as a blind fold” or “gently tie your partner’s wrists together using a soft neck tie”, but you’re reading Fetish Friday, and you don’t come here for the soft and gentle, so let’s start with some equipment that’s a little more robust.

Wrist & ankle cuffs, restraint straps & hog tie connector

The wrist and ankle cuffs are made from faux leather with Velcro fastenings so are comfortable to wear and easy to adjust. The cuffs also feature spring-loaded steel clips for easy attachment to the restraint straps and hog-tie connector.

Restraining your partner is an excellent way to experiment with BDSM and discover your limits. If you’re new to this, try not to take it too seriously; just have fun with it – that’s what you’re there for right? Try engaging in a little role play, discovering who better suits the dominant and submissive roles. Maybe you’ll enjoy both?

For those of you who are a little more experienced and very much into bondage, you may like to try different ways of restraining and binding your partner with the extra long restraint straps. Manoeuvre your partner into any number of provocative positions; hog-tying being just one!

Padded black eye blindfold

This high quality blindfold is padded and made from faux leather, ideal for sensory deprivation.

Using a blindfold can be a fantastic way to discover your sexuality, even for the easily intimidated. Stimulating your partner’s body whilst one of their senses is restricted will make the sensations feel all the more pleasurable.

When your partner is blindfolded you can inflict any number of delightful or painful sensations to tease, confuse, pleasure or discipline them. You can be as creative as you like when doing this, using your hands, feathers, ice, a spanking crop; whatever your imagination allows.

Black vented ball gag

This ball gag is made from PVC with adjustable faux leather straps. The ball also has convenient ventilation holes so you don’t have to worry about being able to breathe.

A ball gag is a fantastic toy for couple whom really want to take their bedroom play to the extreme. Using a gag can be highly arousing when worn to hold back screams to pleasure and stop your submissive from saying ‘no’, allowing them to completely succumb to pleasure.

A cautionary note though, when your partner is wearing a ball gag they will be unable to verbally assert the ‘safe word’, so make sure there is an agreed way of communicating via some other means that your playtime is getting a little too extreme and should be stopped.

Short spanking crop

This exquisite crop is 13 inches long with a tough PVC shaft and strong leather head, finished with beautiful detailing.

A spanking crop is a truly delicious addition to anyone’s BDSM kit. Not quite as extreme as a cane or a whip, but a little more authoritative than a hand, a spanking crop can deliver quite the thrilling sting. The wide leather head can be used to deliver some firm over-the-knee punishment and turn the skin a blushing pink.

The intensity of the punishment is up to you as a couple. If you’re a complete beginner then start lightly and keep ensuring that the receiver is enjoying the sensation. If you’re more experience, it may be appropriate to use a lot more force.

There is a thin line between pain and pleasure, and gently spanking your partner will stimulate blood flow making their skin all the more sensitive to the touch. Mixing a little pain into your bedroom play can really heighten the intensity of the experience making foreplay, sex and your orgasm all the more intense.

Black whip and feather tickler

This beautiful toy can be used to tantalise or punish, with delicate black feathers on the one end and a multi-tail whip on the other.

The soft feathers could be highly pleasurable when used with the blindfold and restraints to tickle erogenous zones and stimulate arousal. Then, just when your partner least expects it, you can turn the toy around and lovingly whip their body.

 

Hopefully in this kit you’ll find everything you need to get started. If you have any question about experimenting with bondage and BDSM, you can get in touch with us on Facebook or Twitter where we’d be happy to help.

I hope you all have an amazing Fetish Friday and a filthy weekend!

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