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An Interview with an Online Dominatrix

This week I conducted an interview with an online Dominatrix! This exchange could be a pretty interesting read for any aspiring Dommes or Submissives…

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When did you realize that you like to dominate and humiliate men?

I’ve always had an exhibitionist side that I kept hidden for too long. I have always been confident around men and forever loved the look of fetish wear but I didn’t know much about domination until I came across an adult webcam site.

I logged on, started teasing men and having fun. I was neither Domme nor sub when I started and did a bit of everything but very quickly I became naturally more dominant and I started discovering specific fetishes and activities within BDSM that I enjoyed.

I did my homework and research about being a Mistress and Googled fetishes, kinks and watched Femdom porn which helped me to flourish as a Domme. I soon realised that I was very good at it and rather than doing it for fun and a bit of pocket money, I turned it into a career.

BDSM has given me a real passion and I am forever learning about new kinks each and every day that I’m on cam, conducting real time sessions or talking to fellow Dommes or subs.

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Does it turn you on to dominate men online?

It doesn’t turn me on as such, but I certainly get a huge buzz from it.

I get a huge ego boost when dominating men. What started out as a bit of fun has turned into a living and I guess the money turns me on.

Really, it’s the power exchange I love; I get to manipulate men and hurt them emotionally, physically and financially.

With my partner we enjoy the fact that the subs I session with both on cam and in person do not get to sleep with me, which is inevitably what they want. They will never get me but my partner does; that has certainly spiced up our sex life.

Say for instance I do a real time session, teasing and humiliating a sub who wants to fuck me; being an utter bitch and saying “you can’t have me”, afterwards I want to pounce on my partner as he isn’t submissive like them and it kind of feeds his ego and makes things more fun for us.

 

What is your favourite way to punish or humiliate a submissive man?

Definitely CBT (Cock and Ball Torture). I am a little sadist and there’s nothing better to me than hurting a man’s dangly bits (after all, that’s where his brains are!) I am also a big fan of ball busting which is an extreme kink, but I love it.

I also love humiliation as it’s such a huge subject area; from flushing men’s head down toilets to using their mouths as ashtrays, or having them lick my muddy boots. I enjoy domestic servitude also and used to have a sub come over and pay to do my housework once a week dressed in a sissy maid outfit.

But all in all, the main thing I love is the power exchange and manipulating them into doing what I want.

 

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What’s the strangest or funniest thing(s) a man has ever said to you in an online domination session?

This is probably the most difficult question to answer as every day I get so many strange requests. My motto is safe and consensual and I do not do anything with my subs that would require hospital attention, but some things suggested by subs really make me question the minds of men!

Most recently I was asked “Can you tell me to put superglue down my cock?”

The fetish requests are the strangest; I had a sub with a fetish for turtleneck sweaters, another for watching me read a specific gossip magazine, and another one today who wanted me to watch him have sex with his hoover.

The list of strange requests is endless. I tell myself that what is normal for someone is bizarre for someone else so I’m always open to hearing about new fetishes and kinks.

 

Would you ever consider being a Dominatrix in ‘real life’?

In terms of my relationship with my partner I’m kind of more submissive in that I like him to take care of me but I’m not into being tied up and whipped. I tried it once and didn’t like it.

I’m suppose I can be dominant and submissive. I’m definitely very dominant with other men who try to talk to me though. After all the years of learning about fetishes and understanding what men think about when wanking it’s very easy to be put off by them. Sometimes I speak to guys like shit if they come over to chat me up.

I am definitely confident and have grown to be more dominant in the way I talk to men. I must admit that I do get a kick from being cocky with them as they don’t expect it. I feel like I know more about them in one glance then they do. I look at them and think; what weird things are you into?

If I were single I think I’d struggle to find another man like my partner at the moment who is ok with what I do and we have our boundaries.

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What tip(s) would you give to a submissive man looking to find a good Domme online?

Politeness, manners and respect for the woman you wish to serve are paramount. Address her properly and do not bombard her with emails. Never say “I need” or “I want”.

A Mistress has no concerns for her sub’s needs. Hard limits are respected, yes, but as soon as a sub says “I need” or “Can you wear this?”, “Do this” or “Do that”, I’m not interested.

A submissive must think of me and what I want. A sub should be willing to do anything for his Mistress’ entertainment and amusement.

Oh, and saying they’re horny all the time, yuck! Pass me the chastity device…

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